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*inkstrawberrie2011
writes:So i finally accepted myself as being a lesbian and i wanted to know if i should tell my family or when even if its only been a couple of months since i had accepted myself and nearly everyone in my family is homophobic
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (14 May 2009):
 At your age you are still finding out about your sexuality. I have had friends who thought they were homosexual find happiness in a heterosexual relationship. It is also not uncommon for people to discover their homosexual side later in life.
I wouldn't come out yet. Let you life pattern sort itself out. As you get older it will all become clearer to you and your family.
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reader, pinkstrawberrie2011 +, writes (10 May 2009):
pinkstrawberrie2011 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much for the advice i'll really take to heart and think about what you've said
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): Where are you nightlad? We need your brilliancy.
I don't think there is certain length of time that will tell you "go ahead." But you should of course tell them eventually, as i believe they will start to get suspicious when you get a girlfriend.
I would wait until you're fully accepting of yourself and you are a bit stronger. It'll probably take you some time to resist the opinions of those around you and be who you are. As soon as you can tell your friends/peers/etc. and accept whatever judgement they lye on you then you are ready to take it from your family.
I feel like i should tell you to tell your family first because they deserve to know and they love you and blahblah.. but if they don't accept it, then you need to prepare yourself for that pain.
Wait until you are truely your own person and not suject to what others think, evn those closest to you. And good luck. Sincerely.
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