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writes:the 11th is me an my boyfriends 8 month aniversary an he doesnt even wanna do anything but hang with his friends. and i wouldnt mind if he didnt do this on a regular basis. this is an everyday thing.i always ask him if he wants to hang out just me and him he'll say yes but then we either dont hang out because he blows me off for his friends or we'll hang out for like an hour then he'll invite his friends to hang out with us. i tell him to stip doing that. but he wont.im thinkin about breaking up with him but i dont kno if i should. i also think that we can just take a break. somebody please help.
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reader, notinthesane +, writes (8 May 2008):
 I think that, although 8 months is an accomplishment, it's not something to make a huge deal out of. Celebration is not called for at month marks. It's the years that are special.
When it comes to the friends always being around, a guy needs his friends and he needs his boys nights, but he should also be making time for just you and him. Maybe you should try suggesting a date night and explain to him that that specific night of the week is JUST for you and him to spend some time alone together. If you really have to spell it out, then do that. Explain that you want to have time with him, not him and the boys.
Just try it before you call it quits. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): Just like you need time with your friends so does your boyfriend, which you understand however he is disregarding your anniversary and your feelings and not making time for you and this is totally unacceptable. You are a couple he's no longer a bachelor.
Tell him you understand how important his friends are to him, but that you deserve one on one time as well and that there are certain days that are special, just between the two of you like anniversaries and such and if he is unwilling to put any time/effort into your relationship its just not going to work. You deserve more than this and you definitely don't want to stay with an insensitive, immature, guy like this. Obviously he's just not interested in your relationship.
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