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writes:well my luck always seems to get worse when I don't think it could. The girl I love or loved most likely had sex with one of my best friends. She says they only made out but at this point I don't believe her cause she has lied before and I have heard other stories of how daddies little girl who is 15 gets around. She asked me not to tell anyone which is kinda a bitch move cause you don't do that then hope no one finds out. I won't tell anyone but all I know is I got some good friends that got my back cause even if the truth hurts I want it. we weren't dating or anything so Im not upset that she likes someone else but what I am pissed about is her lying to me saying she is dating this guy then goes and has sex with one of my friends. My question is should I believe her when she says they just made out when she has lied to my face or or believe my friend who has been right so far about everything. I am very jealous that he comes in meets her one day and bangs her when I have been put in friends zone from day one. I want to hate but I can't and it won't do anything. I am not supposed to know about it cause I heard from another friend who wasn't supposed to tell anyone but told me cause he knew I needed the truth. up until this point I didn't feel like I was wasting anytime but as of last night the last 6 months have been for nothing. My other question is I know I don't have the right to tell her who she should date and I told her that but she felt bad today about it and texted me a good bit. Should I be her crying shoulder or just let her face the truth? I don't care what she does cause she lied to me so many times and I trusted her.
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reader, justfriends +, writes (26 October 2010):
justfriends is verified as being by the original poster of the question well I told her I wasn't going to tell anyone, and I haven't and won't besides this post but it doesn't effect her on here. I want to thank trancedrhythmear hella good response and it felt good to read that. Her having sex with him is not big deal she lied to me isn't either Im just saying I don't lie to my friends regardless to whether they are a guy or a girl.
what bothers me is the act that she put up. I realized I can't be the wussy guy who won't go anywhere so this was a good wake up call. she seemed like and acts around most people like she is a good girl meaning no sexy or what ever cause she is 15 but reality is thats just nice to believe but its not true.
It also bothers me that my friend who banged her knew I liked her and he doesn't know that I know so its a little awk. she felt bad about it cause she wasn't showing up at lunch today and avoiding seeing guys.
like I said I won't tell anyone its not for me to say we never dated but we were good friends so Im not going to ruin being friends with in my mind the prettiest girl in the world over this. I just needed to ask what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): This girls rep is destroyed and I see her becoming one of those insecure girls who depends on men just to be happy. She's useless as a youtube comment man. In fact, ur a good guy Im sure. Forget this girl, dont chase her as itd be as dumb as watching a t rex chasing its own tail bro. Youre smart, upstanding, and this girl is no class act. Go find yourself a decent girl bud. Best to you.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 October 2010):
 What does it matter if she had sex with him or not, or if she lied to you? You're not together, and she obviously isn't girlfriend material...You've wasted time and effort trying to get with this girl, and now you know for sure you won't get with her. You're not going to move out of the friend zone...Stop being her doormat. Let your friend have her, she will tire of him and move on to the next flavor of the week. Word will spread quick this girl has been around the block quite a few times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): I wouldnt believe her and because of the path shes on it wouldnt hurt anything to let her feel the raft of consequences (imbarrasment, loss of ur trust, let her figure it out herself ect.)
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