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writes:My man said he had to work this evening. When he returned home he acted strange, ran into the shower and then I was in his car, I found an empty box of 3 condoms. He said that they were not his and it must be the guy he gave a ride from work. I do not know what to think. He has cheated before, like 3 years ago with his ex. Can you help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): In my opinion, a duck is a duck. he acted wierd and ran in and showered, and the condoms are in the car? he did not even clean up. a did you keep them for some odd reason? has the car bee washed or stem cleaned? there is semen left behind no doubt, it can be tested for years after it dries on, and may be invisible to the eye, get a UV light to help find the stains! go to the internet and look up semen detection kits. the are scientific kits that test specifically for semen, read directions carefully and take one step at a time
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (22 June 2008):
 His behavior is suspicious. Does he normally come home and shower right away or at least around the time he did shower?
The empty box of condoms most likely does not belong to his work pal, that's stretching it a bit.
Time for a heart to heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): I suggest you see this as a red light flashing; a warning signal; BE ALERT; don't over react; start taking note of things; be aware!
Be strong; be patient,if there is anything, you will find it easier by staying calm and being observant;
Good luck; BE ALERT!
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reader, SouthernBelle +, writes (22 June 2008):
 I think when it comes down to a situation like this you have to be careful. Us as women are over thinkers and we over analyze everything. Are his actions suspicious? Yes they are but on the same token that doesn't always mean he's up to something suspicious just because we feel he is. You have to be careful in how you approach him about it and how you word what you're going to say because if he really has stayed faithful he's going to get upset and close himself off when you start accusing him of things and his feelings are going to be hurt. I think for right now you need to leave it alone and trust what he said but keep a watchful eye open for changes in him and things he does. If more and more instances start happening where it points to cheating and you are unclear about it then yes confront him.
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reader, Katie138  +, writes (22 June 2008):
 I agree with the two comments above, that is VERY suspicious, you should be suspicious, just question him a lot, and mention you did it three years ago, whos to say you wouldn't do it again!! just go with your gut rather than your heart when things are like that because otherwise you can just get really hurt if the truth comes back bad!
Good luck!!
x Katie x
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reader, bday121 +, writes (22 June 2008):
 Since I firmly believe in the expression "once a cheater, always a cheater," I'm going to have to say that his actions are VERY suspicious.
Your husband is up to something. The evidence against him is overwhelming. Confront him calmly and tell him exactly what you have told us here. Tell him that you're not an idiot, that you can put two and two together, and that you deserve to know what's really going on here. Pressure him so that you get the truth. Watch his body language; look to see if he's lying.
If you have no luck through the first direct confrontation, start gathering more evidence. Pay attention to any changes in his schedule, mood, appearence, interests, and sexual urges. If you notice that things are different, present him with all the evidence you have. Don't stop questioning until you're sure that you've heard the truth. Trust me, this is the best way to catch a cheater. He'll deny it to death unless you have something backing up your claims.
Remember, you deserve to know the truth!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): if you feel it, if you think it... just go with your gut. talk to him about it. confront him. it really does sound like he's up to something. you don't need that in your life. you want to be happy and HEALTHY! there is absolutely no reason for an empty box of condoms to be in his car. they're not his friends from work. who carries around an empty condom box? i wish you the best.
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