A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:recently, about nine months ago, i met this truly amazing guy in school. i was attracted to him in class immediately before we even spoke to each other, having a crush on him already, and i knew i had to get to know him. i was so nervous that i shook around him before i even made the first move, and when i finally befriended him, i found out that his personality was like a carbon copy of mine. we also shared almost exactly the same likes and dislikes. it seemed too good to be true, to me. i waited about a month before telling him how i felt about him, and i found out that he also liked me too, but he didn't want to get into a relationship, saying that we should see where things would take us. throughout the rest of the school year, we were inseparable, and we flirted mildly back and forth, and our friends began to think we were together. at the end of the year, i was forced to move an hour away for a few months, telling my friends that i would be back when the new school year came around, and so far i haven't been able to come back, and it may be another month until i'm able to. i told my special guy friend that i couldn't bear to try to keep our friendship alive through calling and the internet, so i just told him to wait until i came back, because he ways always very busy, and we rarely talked anymore. also, whenever i brought up how i was feeling about him and i, he would always ask me to talk about something else, or try to change subjects. he told me that he was worried and upset, and that he did want me to come back as soon as possible. but he spoke to me like a friend, like the special things we felt for each other were now gone. he's never lied to me, and it's totally out of character for him to stop liking me out of the blue. i've been extremely careful and patient in trying to see where our friendship is going. also, i'm positive that it wasn't because he started to have feelings for someone else, but that he feels like he deserves to be single for the rest of his life, and he's afraid of having to be in a complicated relationship, and he often worries that he'll be forced to leave because of other obligations of importance. what should or shouldn't i do in this situation?should i be more patient? or is it over for us?
View related questions:
crush, flirt, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): i have tried to move on, but i still can't help being hopeful. i've tried to think that there was no hope that this was going to work, but a part of me still thinks that it might. i truly thought that this guy was perfect for me, and the fact that we were so close still pains me today because i haven't been able to really be with him in such a long while. i still get butterflies, and my heart still leaps whenever i see that he's online or whatever. and a part of me is waiting to see if he'll give in and talk to me first before i come back.i'm not hurting as much, but the pain is still writhing when i start to think of losing him altogether.i'm still confused as to what i should really do.
A
female
reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (20 October 2009):
 I think you should try and move on. LDR rarely work out and it seems like he's not interested.
...............................
|
