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writes: heyi gave my bf a blow job for the first time the other day, but he didnt cum! he realy seemed to enjoy it, and i think i didnt everything right, however should I be insulted he didnt cum, or can boys enjoy BJs without cumming!! advicee plzz x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): his in front of you, why didn't you just ask him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): Dont be insulted, Guys take a while to cum when you give them a blowjob, and he may have wanted to have sex with you instead so he didnt cum.
Its hard to answer this question as I'm not really sure of the circumstances.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006):
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reader, Yos  +, writes (28 November 2006):
 Don't be insulted. There's lots of reasons why this could have happened.
If a guy has masturbated a lot, or recently, then its going to initially be harder for him to orgasm. A blow job is a very different sensation to his own hand, and takes some getting used to. Especially because with his hand he can exert a lot more pressure than you can with your mouth (and hands). Also, since he's probably masturbated to porn, a 'real woman' can take some getting used to. Real sex can come as a real shock after a few years of jacking off to 2-dimentional pictures of women that do exactly what you want them to and don't have needs of their own.
Also, it could have been nerves. If he's feeling a bit nervous, which is very normal for a first time, then its going to be harder for him to orgasm. This could easily have happened. It may take a few more times before he becomes more comfortable and can relax enough. Remember that he's probably not going to admit that he is nervous! Guy's can be guys sometimes... supposed to be brave and confident and all that, whilst under the surface we are just as nervous as you ;)
You can also ask him what he likes and doesn't like. The trick is for you two to be able to get over your embarassment and talk about what you like. Do remember that because he likes something it doesn't mean you have to do it... many guys like the idea of deep-throat for example (mostly from having seen it in porn), but it can be really unpleasant and hard to do (and make you puke), so only do that if you really like the idea of it. It certainly isn't necessary to do in order to make him orgasm.
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