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writes:I really fancy the same person that my best friend fancies. Well, she says she is just friends with him but I'm pretty that she feels WAY more strongly about him than that. Thing is, she knew him before I did and she was the one who actually introduced us at school. I don't think he fancies her but I don't know how he feels about me!!!!! Should I ask him out and risk hurting my best friend???
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reader, maddierose  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 I'm just throwing this out there as a point of veiw.
My best friend kissed the boy I fancied - And I then said to her 'I don't care, I don't care, be with him if it will make you 2 happy' which was a complete lie.
And then she did it again. And after crying for a bit I told her I was fine with it because I didn't have a chance with him (but I might have done had she not got in the way)Only she stayed with him for 6 months, it hurt me very badly and now I can't see him in the same way.
Even though both times I tried to convince myself that friends come before guys and I was still so close with her. Now I'm feeling very bitter. I won't let her meet any guy that I like, I don't like her even being near my brother because I see her as a sexual predator that is out to steal all the guys that surround me.
And ofcourse you aren't like that, because its a different scale. But don't let yourself become like my friend. Because even though I really didn't want it to... it completely ruined our friendship.
Good luck :-) x
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reader, mario4hustle  +, writes (22 February 2009):
why not ask him out, you should not miss out just because she is too afraid to speak up.
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reader, Cerberus + ♥, writes (22 February 2009):
 No, you should talk to your friend about it, but I must warn you even if she says it's okay it probably won't be.
You need friends more than you need boys there'll always be other boys, it is never worth risking hurting a friend ever, there'll be plenty of boys that will hurt you and it's friends that will be there to pick you up.
No boy is worth risking a great friendship.
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