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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:please girls, I need your help and advice, I have this problem with a woman who is driving me crazy. She likes me, as it shows in her eyes, her words and her acts, she ia married by the way and I want to know what does she want exactly. She often flirts and teases me, and even gives some sexual signs. When I approach in the beginning she shows appreciation, but whenever things start to heat up she withdraws and when I stop, she starts the game all over again.What does she really want from me? Is she just playing with me or is she hesitating because she feels ashamed because she is married after all??I have been observing her she openly flirt with me only and not with other guys when we are together and her husband is always busy, so he doesn't really notice or care. I need answers to tell what she wants and I don't want blames on her or on me please.
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reader, Aliupe  +, writes (28 July 2018):
I am a woman in a very similar situation, but I don’t pull back he does. I am married and he is in a relationship but keeps telling me he loves me. I have admitted my feelings to him and even though he loves me it scares him. I don’t know what is going on in his head and trying to get him to open right up and be honest is hard but I truly believe it’s what we need. I have tried twice to give him an out I thought he wanted but he was very quick to hold on. He has never asked me about my marriage and if I love my husband which yes I do but something is missing and I knew this other guy in my early 20s and lost touch and reconnected years later and always loved him, and he must have questions and I too have questions and we need to have this discussion to truly know whether to pursue or not.You need to have an honest open conversation with this girl and lay it on the table and if she is anything like me she will be willing. Being open and honest is the key trust me my heart is breaking trying to figure my situation out. If you don’t you will always wonder and life is to short my friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): Firstly, are you married yourself? How old is she? and by flirting, what are the signs you are picking up on. if she did want something more, are you willing to do more with her despite her being married?? Is this wise.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (31 March 2009):
Ok, I think if you just disappear and back off then she would probably take the hint, but she may worry she has offended you and be a little upset.
The best thing to do in this situation is to be honest. Just tell her that you think you are getting too close and you don't want to cause problems. For her or you.
Then when you don't flirt any more then she will understand.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondear emily thanks for your replay,and i am sure now that she enjoys turning me on,infact many girls do but she goes a little bit further honestly,i made up my mind i want to get red of her foor good she is causing me agony,and i never thought about taking her from her huband,though i thought about having fun,and I AM STILL WAITING FOR THE ANSWER ON MY QUISTION IN MY REPLAY NO3she had backed me off a few days ago,and i feel very badabout it infact i have mixed feelings being guilty,silly,foolish, and i am off with her for surebut read my replay no 3 on this quistion i need an answer please.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (31 March 2009):
She probably just enjoys playing with you.
If you flirt back then she thinks you are enjoying playing too.
You know she is married, and she backs off when it goes too far so unfortunately she trusts you and thinks you are just having a bit of a laugh and giving each other a bit of an ego boost.
If you have feelings for her then back away. Her husband may be rubbish but she is married and that means she chose him over you before you even met. Hopefully he will notice and spend a bit more time making her happy.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay I've made up my mind, I am getting rid of her and her crap because she is driving me mad, seducing me to the peak and then pushing back, but the IMPORTANT QUESTION IS would she realy stop even if I neglect her especilally that she got used to teasing me and got used to my attention for some time now (about three years )Don't tell me to expose her because I haven't been so innocent with her so far and I can't stop seeing her 100% becasue we are related somehow!
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reader, cinderz  +, writes (31 March 2009):
 Hmmmmm tough and taboo question to answer but here goes ....Well just because she flirts with you is not to say she wants to have an affair or is unhappily married but is not to say she doesn't enjoy the attention you are giving her! Which her busy husband obviously is not right!....so WHAT you need 2 DO HERE IS GETmore info here get to know her better find out if she is happy ext. or bring up the topic by saying you have a friend who is in an unhappy marriage and whom has had an an affair ...and interject your openness/thoughts/acceptence on the topic if she opens up and relates then you know straight away what she is hoping for and have exact conformation on your hunch. If she says wow i die if my husband did that or she would never consider that then...well u know likewise.....if you should have an affair which i do not advise ......but i know does happen sometimes get a full understanding on what or where this relationship could lead ....The most solid advice i can condone is to find someone single and steer clear of this girl she is trouble possibly alot....Good luck my friend i hope u choose to do the right thing!
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