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She's just too tight and it's a strain on my penis!

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Question - (17 December 2005) 6 Answers - (Newest, 30 May 2007)
A male , anonymous writes:

My girlfriend's vagina is really tight. I have an uncircumsized penis and every time we have sex, it kills me because my skin gets pulled back and actually stays like that. I have to pull out and fix it, it gets annoying.

We don't want to use a condom or lubricate, so I make her vagina wet. It helps, but at times it kills me. Any suggestions?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007):

i had the same problem with my girlfriend our first few times, no condom or lube but we found alcohol loostens her up well and now its fine with out! good luck

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A female reader, babiebarbiedoll +, writes (28 December 2005):

i dont know how long you have been together and/or your both each others first sexual partners and dont mean to preach but please please be aware of std's and sti's! i know the old saying wearing a condom is like eating a mars bar with the wrapper on....but better be safe than sorry.

enough on that any way, when you and your girl get down to it do you spend time on foreplay! or jump straight into it?? if so she may not be fully turned on and relaxed. spend time on her and if all else still fails lubs are a great invention! xx

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A male reader, Calidus +, writes (18 December 2005):

lubricant is your best bet.. or get circumsized or both ;p

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (17 December 2005):

eyeswideopen agony auntYes, use a condom and a lubricant. I recommend 10 W 30.

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A male reader, Qui-Gon-Jim +, writes (17 December 2005):

Qui-Gon-Jim agony auntIt's never easy when there's problems in bed. Even if it's embarrasing to discuss it, talking it out can be a pretty big step in the right direction.

This might be an emtionl problem your partner has. If she is feeling uncomfortble, sex is alway going to be uncomfortable. Try and make sure she feels fine and well when it's time to... well, you know...

It's never a good idea to have sex without protection, so please consider using some in future (of course, it's entirely your choice).

Maybe going to your doctor or a clinic can find a medical solution, or, if it's all a little embarrassing; there's always the web. A good one to use is

A position change might help you out. Missionary and the like aren't always the best way to go, so keep open mind (and legs...).

Have fun, Qui-Gon xxx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2005):

Dude, you've got to get over the desire to NOT use lubricant. Tightness is generally a good thing, not something to complain. Perhaps you are also a bit large? My guess is that if it doesn't feel good for you, it probably is not that great for her either. Also, consider the use of a marital aid prior to penetration in order to "cut you some slack" before you enter your girlfriend.

Good luck and get some lube... a condom will probably not help and may actually be "stickier" inside some women's vaginas.

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