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writes:So here's the deal. There is this girl I know, and I know it may sound whatever but I really think she's the one. The connection is unbelievable and she is so supportive of me and my career. When I'm with it just feels right, she is just the right girl. I'm pretty sure she feels this too, she's very flirty with me and friends have told me they think she's into me and they see the chemistry. There is a catch though, she has a boyfriend and they're pretty steady. She's also a few years older than me. What should I do? She's always on my mind and I seem to be on hers as well, the way she talks to me etc. So advice?
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reader, TheFurFiles  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 Advice - back off. One, as you said, she's taken. If she likes you enough, she will dump her boyfriend. Two, girls like the chase, so backing off couldn't hurt either way. She'll just be the one chasing you - IF she's interested.You might want to plant a very strong seed in her head first though, like say, "If you are ever single, you know where to find me." Pause, wink, and then whisper in her ear, "And I'd really like to be found." Also, you should realize that not everything works exactly when you want it to. She may be the one for you but just not right now. If you are really meant to be together, it'll happen someday. But don't go around holding your breath. Your face might turn blue.Good luck,Fern (TheFurFiles)
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 You have answered your question: she has a boyfriend and they're pretty steady.
My advise? My advise would be to accept the fact she is in a relationship that even to you, who would like it to be faltering on its last legs, looks pretty steady, accept the friendship she is offering and find yourself a girl who is more intune with you with regard to maturity and availability.
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reader, please help me  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 simply tell her you are the one i want, and it upsets you knowing that she is with somone and you just hope that she will realise how much she means to you and although the relationship she is in seems steady it may all just be an act, if she really does have feelings for you then she will she what she could have and hopefully chose to be happy with you :)
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