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*ikandme
writes:Hi, me and my girl friend are both 14 year's old. im 15 in april. im not looking forward to it.we are in love, i know this for a fact. you can tell me we are not go ahead it wont do eny good. im not trieing to sound rude.but my problem is touchynes, im not being touchy anough she seis. i can see in a way.im to afraid to touch her to low on her back becouse i dont want to offend her. but she tell's me that it would not bother her at all. and she want's me to do think's like that. but i just cant do it. i want o but i just feel that if i do she will be offended. and i rilly dont want that.....she is to easy to hert "long story".the ferthest i have went is making out with her. and her siting on my lap while watching movie. i love afection. i am a very afectonate person. so little thing's like cudling with her just mean the world to me.how should i bring myself to being more touchy? she want's me to and it will make her happy and that is what matter's to me. is making her happy. i want to also. help me on how to aproach this please.thank's a million,nikandme Reply to this Question
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reader, nikandme +, writes (26 December 2007):
nikandme is verified as being by the original poster of the question hay thank you, i am going to do what you say. im so glad that you can understand that i love her. nether my nor her perant's think so. thay call it puppy love but it's reel. i rilly love you'r advise. you understand how i feel and how much i love her. you'r the first one except her. you give awsom advise and i would rilly like you'r advise on other thing's as well.
thank's a million, and thank you to all of those who try to help me.
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reader, dc.ryan  +, writes (26 December 2007):
 ello,
You're both very young, and very much in love (and I appreciate that - its such a nice thing to be in).
She says she wants you to become more touchy with her, and I understand your worry about 'offending' her or going too far - this is perfectly normal because you care/love her!
Instead of writing to us (well I'm totally new, so them!) you should be sitting down and talking to her about how you feel about touching her - it truely does worry you, and we can see that. Explain to her how it makes you feel, and say that despite her saying shes ok with it - it still makes you feel uncomfortable.
Perhaps ask her to 'guide' you, tell her to place your hands when she'd like them - this will give HER control, and make you feel like you're following her 'rules' of touching - make a mental note of it, and carry on from there :)
For now, stop your worrying - sit down and have a chat!
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Ryan
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