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writes: How do I get answers out of her? We used to call and text all the time, but recently she said it was annoying when I did that, so I stopped. She used to be extremely affectionate all the time, in public, private, wherever. She is still affectionate, but less often, and it makes me wonder about things. It's really hard to talk to her about this stuff without her being overdramatic and just saying something like "well maybe we shouldn't go out anymore." How do I tell her I want more affection/reassurance while giving her the space she wants?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): Well I'm only going on 6 short lines of text here but are you so sure your girlfriend still wants this relationship?
Sometimes people are too gutless to admit they want out so they do thing such as your girlfriend is going, wait until you have a huge problem about it and then can blame you their decision to break up.
If your girlfriend has changed massively and when you try and talk replies with "maybe we shouldn't go out anymore" I would suggest she most certainly does not want to work at the relationship any more. Perhaps it is time to call it a day? You'll know for sure by talking to her properly about it. And if she refuses to talk - I think she will have made her position pretty clear. Good luck with whatever you decide to do, but remember, someone who wants to be in a relationship will talk, listen, communicate and work to fix things. You're doing this - is she?
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (8 November 2006):
 The problem is if a persons not an affectionate person then you can't really change them,when we first start a relationship we are touchy feely and affectionate to each other but with some people it does'nt always last you mostly always get one person in a relationship who's very affectionate and the other isn't,you say that when you txt her all the time she finds it annoying and then if you confront her about the situation she says about breaking up..are you sure she isn't going off you? have you noticed any other changes in her towards her?..sit her down and tell her how insecure you feel and that you miss her affection tell her you would like things how they used to be and 'whats changed'maybe she has things on her mind,ask her if she has, and tell her your there for her to talk to..
GOOD LUCK
xLEAHx
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