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writes:hello, my girlfriend thinks that I look at other girls, but i dont either that or im not aware of it, but it puts a real strain on our relationship, what should i say to her and what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): humans are wired to be attracted to the other sex... she looks at guys and you look at girls! there should only be a problem if you take it futher than a second look! how is it any different then when she stares at the abs of a guy in the movies? it's not! as long as you're not drooling and what not, there should be no problem! talk to her and let her know that you love/like her and no matter who else you see, she's the one you'll kiss goodnight!
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reader, Inallhonesty...  +, writes (8 September 2010):
 I'll never understand how women think they can control what their SO (boyfriend, husband, or whomever) "looks" at. We all have eyes, which are usually drawn to moving objects. Sometimes it is worry over nothing, but when there is reason to worry, most likely there were other red flags in the relationship to begin with.
What other reasons could she have to be so insecure about who you look at? You claim you don't "look", but I'm sure that when you do, you have enough respect for your girlfriend not to gawk, drool, call out, whistle, etc.
Figure out why she's so worried about you looking at other women. She obviously feels threatened that you'll "look", see something you like, and leave her for someone else. Reassure her that that's not the case. Remind her of the things you love about her that won't be found just by looking at random girls on the street. Good luck with that.
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