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writes:Hi,I posted earlier that my girlfriend of 5 years left for her internship 3000 miles away about a month ago and will be back in about 4 months from now. After a week and a half of leaving we got into a little argument and told me she wanted a break and space. After a week of no contact she told me that she had her doubts about us and that she didn't want to see me for 2 months so that we can find our way back to each other.She told me that she won't be be getting in ANY relationships putting emphasis into the any. She just wants to be on her own without being with me.What I am asking is that should I be worried because shes putting herself in the best position to start meeting new people? I mean I told her the Im sorry for everything and I'll be here whenever you need someone talk to deal and I am doing the no contact route. I'm also asking from experience people that what should I do. I know that if she does anything with any other guy my heart would be too devistated to take her back but also my heart is telling me that I would never know what is going on in Washington. I do care about her and I know whatever she tells me I am going to believe her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): Hi. Well.. on one hand, being 3000 miles away is a strang time to ask for space for obvious reasons.. you have 3000 miles of space no matter what you do. With this logic, i'd say she is setting herself up for new relationships.
On the other hand, it may be a perfect time to ask for space. I know from experience, it's hard to actually have a "break" with someone when you live in the same area. There are too many things tempting a get-together. But from different states, you are forcing yourselves to stick to your plan. In this case, i'd believe that she doesn't want to see anyone else.
It works both ways but since we don't know her or what she's thinking, we really can't tell you exactly what is going on. Just give her what she's asking for and maybe then she'll see it's not really what she wants... or maybe she'll see she loves it. This is just a wait-and-see kind of thing in my opinion.
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