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writes:My ex and I recently began to talk a little bit after we broke up about 4 months ago. She broke up with me with "its just not working", we were going out for about a year and half. We both were very much in love for a long time and guess just fell out of love. Recently though after no contact she started reaching out to me. The last time we talked she asked me if I hooked up with this girl we know BEFORE I even met my ex. The truth is I did, but when my ex asked me when we were going out I denied it because I didn't want to start a fight considering we all know each other. The past was the past I figured and I had been very very honest about every other person I had been with to her. I finally coughed it up when she asked me randomly and since then she said she doesn't want me in her life and hates me. I know we aren't going to get back together, but I like to maybe be friends with her again one day. I mean we shared a lot of great times together and all. I don't know why she is reacting like this 4 months after we broke up and shes seeing someone else too! What does this mean?
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reader, boredinarizona +, writes (13 April 2009):
boredinarizona is verified as being by the original poster of the questionabsolutly nothing...........it was a few time thing.....dont get ur point
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): Perhaps she had a little conversation with that "other girl" and found out things you didn't want her to know. I'll tell you the truth, once it's broken it can never be as it was before. Have you ever broken a plate and tried to piece it back together? Did you see that ugly crack left behind? It doesn't look the same does it? Well, that's what going on in your case. Once trust is broken, the scar will always remain. No matter how much you try to polish to conceal the crack, it will remain. That's what you call resentment. If you had a "forgiving" ex, then it would be a different story. I feel there is more to your story. What's with the other girl?
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reader, boredinarizona +, writes (12 April 2009):
boredinarizona is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell your right armymedic, i certainly won't lie about my past again. However it eats at me because if I brought up her past she would shut down the convo right away really coldly. When i told her this she said "yes but I always told you the truth", whatever. I just don't see why she should even care anymore, its been four months, you have a new man, why bother me now and try to make me feel like shit?
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (12 April 2009):
 It means that when asked about this girl during your "Relationship" and you lied to her. She now thinks every other thing you have ever said to her was also a lie. (I know it wasn't but in crazy girl brain that's what she thinks)
You have to face facts that although you think you were protecting her, (I bet this other girl had already told her the truth) and the fact that you have covered your back for so long has just made you look like a dick.
I'm not sure about the other answers about wanting you back, but to be honest any chance of that has just been flushed away! In future be HONEST, if a girl doesn't like your past, that's her problem to get over, but lying never ever pays off!
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reader, dragon69maiden +, writes (12 April 2009):
She had thoughts about possibly getting back with you. It was more than likely just a random idea that popped into her head. She probably already knew about you and that girl sleeping together and if she was thinking about getting back with you she was hoping that she wasn't right. You confirmed her suspicions and ruined your chances. She's upset that you would lie to her while you were in love with each other too. She's an ex for a reason remember that
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): It means she still has an attachment for you (one way or the other) and maybe she is having second thoughts. If you love her just tell her you still do but until she is available you are moving forward in your life looking forward to your future.
If you don't then when she let's go of the attachment (assuming he is not jealous about it) you probably can all be friends.
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