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She runs hot and cold. Does she care or is she playing games?

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Question - (30 March 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 2 April 2011)
A male Philippines age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I've been going out with this girl for a while, maybe a month. And well, we're kinda like real close and we do what couples do, we've done stuff and all. But sometimes when we meet, she seems to like act a bit different like she's not as close as what we were on the previous dates we had and the next time, it'll the same thing that we're close again, sometimes she rejects my kisses, but I keep it all collected and cool. My point is, Is she interested in me? I just can't figure her out? or Is she playing mind games on me? What should I do?

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A female reader, blonde30s United Kingdom +, writes (2 April 2011):

blonde30s agony auntthe best way to solve anything is always to talk everything over about how you feel so to start with i would do that and see what she says. also remember though that its early days and only been a month so she maybe wanting to take things very slowly and get to know each other first. the best thing also to do is build up the r.ship over time and start off as friends to get to know each other more which is what she maybe doing. you could go slow give things time and then if your still unhappy talk to her.

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A female reader, Peonies United States +, writes (31 March 2011):

She may like you a lot, but is afraid of getting hurt so she pulls back. What were her past relationships like? I'm guilty of doing that recently. I'm dating an amazing guy with whom I have developed feelings and it scared me. I keep taking steps back as a self preservation move, which I know is not a good way to have a healthy relationship. I'm working on not doing that anymore. She may be scared of getting hurt. Why don't you ask Her?

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A male reader, ReturningtheFavor United States +, writes (30 March 2011):

I agree it could just be her mood, she might be a moody person, but in that case, you need to be careful. it mite offend her that you think she is in a bad mood. (dated one of those) I dont believe I would ask her directly. Does she have a close friend who you can ask? If the relationship isnt well established then asking her bout being hot and cold with you may weird her out. (dont know but i think its best not to ask until you are officially a couple) Women are very complicated and difficult to read, my suggestion is dont get to emotionally involed, until your official, and just be cool and patient. Love happens on its own time regardless of what how we want it to progess. Hope this helps! Hope you end up happy! :)

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (30 March 2011):

dirtball agony auntIt could just be her mood. You need to ask her about it though. Only she can tell you what she is thinking.

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