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writes:I am in an hard spot, i have been with my girlfriend for 10 months and we are in love. We have sex on a daily basis, usually once or twice a day. For the most part i pull out instead of wearing a condom so its unproteted. We agree it feels better so we take the risk. Anyway, i noticed some bumps near her area and confronted her about it. She told me that she has suspected she had genital warts since before we we started dating. She thinks it was the last guy she slept with before me. I was tested prior to her so it wasnt from me. I believe her because she is a horrible lier and shes never cheated, but I feel angry that she didnt tell me. I know its embarrasing but thats not fair to me to hide it. Should I be supportive and help her get through it or is it unforgivable? And are my chances of infection high? We have had alot of sex and I have no outbreaks or signs of anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): She knew she had it and lied, her ass has got to go. The biggest issue is that she is a liar, who knows what else she has. Who knows what will happen the next time she cheats you on, get her ass out of your life!!! Whats next, honey I am pregnant and 18 years later you find out it was not yours!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Gina, I think she only told him about suspecting she had genital warts AFTER he got it and the whole topic came up.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (27 July 2009):
 I agree with Satindesire. Always ask for their papers before sleeping with them. Some people automatically get tested a lot because they are either in the army or employed in the medical community. I think that it is okay to get mad on this one, but also get yourself checked. I wouldn't leave her anytime soon, as, if you have the virus now, probably the only people who are going to want you now are the ones who already have it. However, you might want to leave her because of deceptiveness. After all, this was a very important topic that she didn't bring up that she should've.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): I can't understand some of these responses. What she did was unacceptable behavior. It would be unacceptable if a male did it, it would be unacceptable if a married person did it, and it's also unacceptable if a single woman does it. People, stop letting the politics of the sexually active modern female cloud up your vision. There's no underlying larger issue here. His approval or disapproval of her sexual history has nothing to do with this. This person's trusted partner just lied to him, and it has resulted in PERMANENT damaging effects to his body. Now HE has to decide to always tell others that he's infected with this! FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE!
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reader, xlittleredcutiex  +, writes (27 July 2009):
gentital warts can take up to a 9months before they start appearing so it might not even be the person she slept with before you.
Don't be mad with her, she probably should have got checked out when she originally thought she had it.
once you've had warts you've usually got the virus and that means they can reappear at any time.Your chances are high but they are easily treated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): i'm sure most people are going to reply 'boot her' to this one. But i disagree! Sure, she should have told you! but everyone makes mistakes and she probably was just embarrassed on how to bring it up! so don't be too mad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): i was in a similar situation.. i was a virgin until i got with my bf then a year later these warts apear, but not on him, so i go mad and acuse him of cheating but it turns out he carries the virus. just coz u can't see them don't mean the virus aint there!!!
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