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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been with this woman for over a year now, and I am truly starting to get annoyed to say the least. When I first got with her, she seemed to be what I was always searching for, but I noticed some early mood swings and dismissed them.She always seems to have a chip on her shoulder, and she just increasingly gets more and more annoying. She either brings up her past, which she cannot seem to forget her previous job as she is not happy in her new job, or she goes on and on about her current job. Whenever I do something in the slightest to annoy her, she becomes horrible and utterly nasty with her comments to me. Now I am no angel, but she seems to just really get mean, especially if she has a few drinks in her.In short I have talked to her a few times and got little to no where. She does try and watch her actions, if she sees she has hurt me but it feels like she just repeats the whole process weeks later. If I bring up the fact that I believe she has had one too many drinks, she thinks I am scrutinizing her or acting better than she as I hardly ever have a drink. Deep down she is a good woman and comes from a nice family, although one of them early-on warned me about her liking some drinks, but they always have drinks themselves. I guess I should have heeded that warning before I got attached.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (29 May 2011):
 I see a lot of red flags here. I see you doing a lot of listening and her doing a lot of talking. That is great for you. But at least from your post, I am not seeing her doing any listening or even acknowledging her faults. It sounds like she is one of the those girls who are pretty self-absorbed (just going from your question).I'd like to ask yourself what you are getting out of this relationship (other than sex, perhaps). Is this the woman you dreamed of marrying? Are you truly compatible? Can you picture what life might be like 5 years down the road and you have a disagreement how it'll be resolved? Do you feel that she truly loves and respects you? Does she at least apologize or acknowledge when she treats you poorly? Does she have a drinking problem?If those questions don't end positively, I think you need to decide why you are sticking around. I do realize it is never easy to part with someone, especially if you have strong feelings for them. Sadly love trumps common sense.I think you are due for some self-reflection and only you can decide what to do next.Good luck.
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