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30-35,
*YCowboy
writes:I am madly in love with a girl. She is perfect in every way. We're really good friends and spend a lot of time together. The only problem is that shes engaged and she says she doesnt wanna break it off with him until shes sure we'll work out. She tells me that shes falling in love with me and that shes not happy with him and that he hurts her. Im just confused because anytime she thinks that theres anything at all going on between me and any other girl she goes off on me and acuses me of playing her, which I'm not, but I kinda feel like she's the one playing me. What do I do? Do i stick around and continue to be there for her in hopes that her and I will someday be together, or do I give up and move on? Can anybody help me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): she doesnt cheat though. we dont kiss. we dont do anything but spend time together. Is that cheating?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): I think she's playing you. She's got the safety and security of a finacee and you on the side. I think that if her feelings were genuine for you she would leave her fiancee (especially since he makes her so unhappy and hurts her). She has some personal issues to sort out and needs to make a decision.
I would suggest telling her that she needs to make a choice. Him or you. If she doesn't know then fine, walk out of her life and DO NOT CONTACT her. Let her have time to think and miss you. The important thing is NOT TO HAVE CONTACT WITH HER - she will coninue to play you if you do. After a set amount of time (maybe a month), call and see how she feels. If nothing changes then walk for good and move on with your life. I'm not saying that maybe one day down the road when she grows up it it won't happen, but you can't put your life on hold for someone. Don't let yourself be used. FInd a girl who wants to be committed.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 She sounds a bit possessive. I would question yourself do you really want to be with someone like that?
Also if she cheats on her own fiance then she will pretty much cheat on anyone else too.
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