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writes:Ok she is 17 is around the same age as me but is about 7-8 months older than me. We are both senior highschool students this year. I don't really mind if she's older than me with a gap that small. I send at least 1 txt a day just to keep contact. Her brother hogs the computer most of the time so me being a computer guy won't get some chemistry with her at the moment.Something that bothers me a little bit is that she could drive and has a car already as for me being a little lazy haven't done the Driving test...but I had a talk with my father and he said to wait till I'm 18 so I wouldn't have to get nailed on with curfews, and doing Drivers Ed. and crap..."At 18!!!" I said, reason is I would be in college already and have to wait like 15 months just to turn that age...BUT our colleges that we plan to go to after college are 3.7 miles from each other so we could still get together after that.Well she lives like technically 5min WALKING!!! from my house to hers.So asking her out that would be the most embarrassing day of my life if she were to be leading the date driving...Well there IS a park like 5-8 blocks from our house...how would I ask her out in the mean while? Reply to this Question
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reader, ask sweeney :)  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 when you go for this date, no matter where it is your gonna take her, say to her, i wanna walk there with you because i wanna talk to you, then when your walking there tell her how you feel bout her and what she means to you, wich should set the mood for a great date,
have a good date good luck take care
let me know how it goes for you
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reader, Slowhands +, writes (10 August 2008):
Slowhands is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the tip guys greatly appreciated I'll try those stuff out once we get a bit closer to her and get to know her a bit more I will try to keep this updated when ever I run into another little problem :)
more good advice will be appreciated
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reader, daletom +, writes (10 August 2008):
There are a LOT of "if's" to consider, but chances are this problem isn't as big as you think.
First off, the age thing isn't a problem except in a few rare situations. Don't even mention it to anybody unless it specifically arises. (My wife is 4 months older than me. For 4 months out of every year, I can accurately refer to her as "my old lady" - and suffer the consequences of doing so. Eventually, I have a birthday and we're the same age again.)
I guess the worst is that IF she is a Very Traditional girl, (or perhaps, if she has Very Traditional parents) then YOU are expected to provide the transportation for all date-like activities. In some cities there is decent public transit. As a parent, when my kids were old enough to have unsupervised dates I truly wouldn't have minded driving them to a bus or subway stop, but I know it would have embarrassed the hell out of them. Taxis get expensive in a hurry.
There is NOTHING wrong - ESPECIALLY in the early stages of a dating relationship - to going with friends as a group. Like, "Bob and Kathy will be coming by on Saturday morning and we'll go watch the cross-country meet. Wanna come along? We can stop for ice cream on the way home!" Again, as a parent - or as your girl's parent! - I would LOVE to hear my kids doing that sort of thing!
Or, start off by asking her to come over to your house some evening or after school. Tell her you'll walk with her both ways. (Great things can happen when you're walking with a girl!) Have something in mind, like a movie, or watch the Olympics, or do calculus homework, not just "hang out". And be sure to keep whatever rules your family has about friends in the house.
Now if you're really brave, just be truthful and tell her that she'll have to provide the wheels and do the driving. Like others said - it may not matter to her. Or, she might admire your candor.
Good luck!
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (10 August 2008):
 if she likes you, she won't care! chances are she probably already knows you don't drive, right? well then ask her if she wants to go on a picnic to the park, and then say you would love to take her out to a movie or dinner but she'd need to drive. i don't think she'd have a problem with either one. at least i wouldn't. if she rags on you for not driving, find a new gal!good luck!
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reader, lady davinci +, writes (10 August 2008):
dude if the girl is really into you sha wont trip ove the fact you're not driving or dont have a car. I mean you're only 17. It'll be unreasonable for her to expect you to have a vehicle. When you get in college you will see tons of people older than you who don't have a car. Ask her out but let her know you don't have a vehicle. If you don't want her picking you up then have her meet you somewhere. Have someone drop you off before she arrives. I mean if its a date you're going to be paying for everything. The least she could do is deal with the fact you don't have a car yet. I say go for it. And if she makes a big deal don't worry. She's just being immature. Trust me, once you get in college you will come across many females who will accept you although you don't have a car. Not having a car just means you have to be more creative about where to take you female. Hell Once you get your license borrow someone else's car. It's seriously nota big deal!!!
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