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writes:I am curently in a relationship with my bestfriend since I was born. The thing is, is that I have type 2 Bipolar Disorder and I feel like she doesn't understand me at all. I've explained what it was to her, I told her how it makes me feel but it just seems like she writes it off. I don't really know what to do cause I love her dearly but I can't be with someone that doesn't understand this about me. So what do you guys think I should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, StraightEdge777 +, writes (19 September 2009):
StraightEdge777 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah you are very right. Thank you so much, I'll go talk with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): hey it's me again, well I would say that she's uncomfortable with your condition maybe she doesn't understand it as much as she should also she sounds a little selfish. If she wants to talk about her problems all the time but then ignores yours that's not very fair or healthy for a good relationship, you should tell her how that makes you feel as well she may not be aware that she is doing any of this. Communication is essential in any good relationship, you have to be up front and be honest with her and when she upsets you or hurts you because of this make sure you say something and don't just keep it inside. If after you talk she still doesn't treat you any better it may be time to end the relationship and just remain friends.
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reader, StraightEdge777 +, writes (18 September 2009):
StraightEdge777 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank very much for the answer. Basically she'll get mad at me for the ways I act sometimes which I try to tell her isn't my fault. Also I always listen to her problems and help her out with them and if I bring up anything about me she changes the subject. But thank you I will try to tell her what's bothering me about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): I have a friend who is also bipolar and at first i wasn't sure what exactly that meant or what to expect. But he did the same thing you did and explained it all out to me and told me what it was like for him. After that i had a better idea what was going on. I never saw it as an issue though so it was never something we talked about. So my suggestion is to first explain to her how you are feeling about her dismissing your condition and how it's upsetting you that she just acts like it's nothing. But maybe she's doing it because she doesn't see it as an issue or maybe she's not sure what you are expecting her to say or do about it. You say she doesn't understand you. What is it she is doing or saying that makes you feel that way?
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