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She compares me to her ex......

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Question - (8 June 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 8 June 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hello there

My current gf tells me all the time that I don't compare to her ex in any way and that she regrets having left her for me. It makes my self-esteem very low and she hurts my feelings with it. When I tell her she replies "well, it's the truth" but why is she with me then? I know I haven't been perfect, but who is? I have a lot of advantages that her ex didn't have. But she just laughs when I mention that. She said I was a mistake. How do I deal with that? I really love her.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010):


It seems to me that your girlfriend is totally taking you for granted, and you are letting her. You need to walk away from this relationship. It can only have negative effects on you, as you've already stated it's lowering your self - esteem. She is not treating you with the respect, care and love that she should.

It may hurt alot to have to walk away from someone you love, but if you don't stop to consider you, nobody else will.

Good luck with it, and take care.


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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010):

Sorry to be rude, but it seem that she's not taking this relationship seroius enought. Why bother to have relationship with someone that don't appreciate you?

You said that you love her and i know u really do, but the fact that she compare you with her ex question all of us. You talk to her about how you feel and she hurts you. I think this relationships is not wroking well, and it's not you false. Ask yourself is all of this worthy?!

Best luck

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