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writes:Ok well bear with me here...I have been in a long distance relationship with a beautiful girl who loves me for about 1 year and a half...We went out for each other for 9 months until she had to move away, but were still together today..The thing is, She loves me dearly and I love her too, but she says we are to young for this and she doesn't want to have any regrets later on; so she wants to date other people while she waits for me since im not moving anywhere near her for another 1 to 2 years...im 18 shes 17..We live 1564 miles apart with an ocean in between us..i visit her about every summer and winter....I asked her if she still loved me and she said yes.. i know that she still does. She wants to be with me and can see a future with me but she cant take the distance and she feels lonely...Should I just let it be??? put our relationship on hold and let us see other people??? Is she right?? Will this ruin anything??? What if she forgets about me??? can she fall in love with another guy??? Im sort of uneasy..Any advice will be super...thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): Honestly, yes, she could fall in love with someone else while you're away. For most women, nothing beats closeness and physical contact. It's very hard to make them feel the spark of love with words; however, something as simple as caressing her hand can make her feel much more.
If you really want to keep her, do anything you can to move in near her as soon as possible, and hold her and kiss her everyday.
If that's too impossible for you or you think it's not worth the sacrifice, then you know what that means.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (1 December 2010):
Well how do you feel about it? Do you find yourself appalled at the idea, or are you kind of agreeing with her that its for the best? If you both mutually understand that the years apart are too tough, it may just be better to move on. Date other people, make new friends, have a good time. Maybe years from now once you're both close again you can talk and see where you're at.
I know its not easy to think about; I had to make a similar decision recently, but I'm confident that living my young years with freedom and fun will be much better than it would be spent feeling alone and missing someone who's miles away. She may be right; you are too young for this kind of thing. Maybe in years to come you'll find each other.
You never know :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): she is still very in love and calls me about everyday and tells me she misses me....but she says that the right thing to do is wait for us to happen....and in the meanwhile see other people....it makes sense but just the idea of her with another guy makes my stomach and heart sink :(
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