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writes:My husband has always like for me to do anal sex on him with a strap. But now he is wanting 2 dress in women's clothes. I let him know I was not into this so he quit. But I came home early from work the other day and he was dressed up in my leather dress with his (woman) boots on having anal sex with himself. I was very upset and haven't spoke 2 him since. I am wondering now if he is gay. I am so confused. I love him but don't feel like this is right and can't live this way. He has lost all my trust and respect for him. Please help.. Don't know what to do. Should I leave him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): That does not mean he is gay! I have known extremely manly men who enjoyed dressing up in womens clothes in the privacy (during sexual activity) of their own home, just because it's a fantasy, an alter ego. It does not mean he is gay!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): I'm sorry, but, your husband sounds like he is Gay!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): Listen hun, this isn't your thing. You told him that you draw the line at women's clothing. You have now lost all trust and respect for him, because he's still doing something that you don't like. You can't change who you are and he can't change who he is. So your marriage relationship is at dire risk if you’ve lost the respect, trust and confidence in him. If you and he can compromise and you can decide what you can or cannot live with, then it can work but that's a long shot if you feel you will always have an aversion to cross dressing. And, if you really disdain this, and wish he wouldn’t do it, and he refuses outright, then you will always feel angry and embittered, and this relationship will get worse over time. You may end up having no choice but to go. So, it doesn't look good unless one of you changes. All I will say is, it sounds like he was either into or acquired some different sexual fetishes, hidden from you, before or during your marriage and this is not what you signed on for. I am sorry, if you don't like it, you may have no choice but to leave...as knowing this will wear you down, over time.
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