A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I've been dating a wonderful man for almost a year now, I stay in his home about 5 days a week, sometimes 6. Everything is going so well. He has hinted about me officially moving in but today I asked him if we could talk about it (seriously) he seemed as if he may be having second thoughts to me moving all my belongings into his home. Do you think I should stay or leave if he changed his mind about me moving in? Oh btw, we will be talking in depth about it tomorrow night Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 January 2013):
 what will happen to your place? how will this be paid for?
would you marry this guy?
when my hubby and I were LDR, we knew that we could not stand to be apart as much as we were having to be... so we moved in together (by this time we knew were were getting married we just were not engaged yet but we moved in formally 12/11 and got engaged 2/12 we married 10/12)
Living together is ok in my book if no MINOR children are involved and neither party wants to marry. BUT, if you would be giving up your home, and your independence... well consider that too.
Have you two discussed how finances will work? IF not, you need to hash all of that out.
IF you want to live together and he does not... well you have to figure out what you want and if you can deal with it if it's different from what he wants.
A
female
reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (23 January 2013):
 I'm doing this and suggest it to anybody anyone. Date but dont live together. Have you own safe house and they have there own safe house.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): well just because he isn't ready for you to move in right now doesn't mean it's a dead end. he could just need more time to warm up to the idea since you've only known each other for about a year, moving in is a big step.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): i don't think you should leave him just because he may not be quite ready just yet (which you're not even certain of at this point). be patient and give it a little bit more time. if he still feels this way in another year or two, then i'd say move on. but the relationship is still fairly young. enjoy your precious time to yourself. and be patient and understanding.
...............................
A
female
reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 January 2013):
 What do YOU want from the relationship?
...............................
|
