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female
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18-21,
anonymous
writes:when i was a little girl of 11 years old , i got molested sexually by many people .i didnt know what that meant back then and honestly i dont know what it was like i mean if i was fully raped coz i didnt bleed. now im in a love relationship and my bf has been talking about getting married soon . the problem is he believes that im a virgin but im not really sure. i know i have never had a sexual intercourse before but my bf wouldnt believe me if im not virgin due to the rape thing!am i still a virgin???
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reader, simojt_marjun  +, writes (22 May 2009):
inspirational story i hop that you like it. Its about
Thinking God I was Sexually molested, and even you can share your story too.
http://www.thankgodforebooks.com/sexually-molested.html
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reader, satindesire +, writes (15 January 2009):
 "Virginity" can be defined many ways, as FeeFee and the male anon below me have obviously described.
The technical 'virginity' that many people speak about is whether or not you have lost your hymen due to a man's penis penetrating your vagina. However, many women are born without a hymen, some are broken during sports, tampon insertion, dancing, horseback riding, etc.
If you feel as though you are still a virgin because you were raped, then you are. If you feel as though you aren't, then you aren't. Virginity is a personal definition that no one but yourself can define for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): Don't listen to what fee-fee just said, virginity is something you have to give freely, it cannot be taken. Virginity is mainly an emotional/mental thing. If it was physical then many women would have lost their virginty to tampons or dildos. Medical terms be damned! they are of no relevance to your current situation.
Therefore being raped is definitely NOT a loss of virginty because it wasn't your fault and you didn't consent, when you give yourself to a man for the first time that's when you will lose it. You are a virgin plain and simple.
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reader, Fee-Fee  +, writes (15 January 2009):
 If your attackers assaulted you but did not physically penetrate you, then yes you are still a virgin.If they did penetrate you, then in medical terms, you are no longer a virgin.If you aren't a virgin, all you can do is explain to your boyfriend you were sexually assaulted, and your virginity was taken from you *without* your permission. However, he will be the first man you have chosen to have sex with, because you love him.Good luck, I am sure he will understand.Fee
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