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writes:Hi there,I have been in a relationship with my partner for over a year now I am 18 and he is 20. We have been sleeping together for eight months of that time. He was my first and when we started having sex i wanted to do it all the time but as time passed i stopped wanting to have sex.Sex with him has become really boring we always use the same 2 positions and he can't make me cum. I have tried to make our sex life more exciting, asked him what he's into for example and the only thing seems to be corsets, at first i found this exciting but there's only so many times i can appear in corset and high heels before it stops being exciting and starts being predictable.so four things...1) Is there anything i can to to spice our sex life up and make it more exciting?2)Are there any ways he can try to make me cum?3) Also i'm very into the idea of roleplay does anyone(guys or girls) have any suggestions of good scenarios (doctor nurse?) or ways i could initiate this?4) I'm also very into the idea of light bondage and domination (him dominating me) we have discussed this but not to be harsh he's really not good at it, i tried dominating him to show him what i wanted but it didn't really work i'm wondering how i can get accross what i'd like from him?Thanks in advance :) x
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 Very glad to help out. One of the best things you can do to help your sex life is be open and honest with each other. Communication like that is important to your relationship as a whole, never forget that. It's the only way you have to really deal with problems. You should never be afraid to talk to the person you love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you SO MUCH!!! your advice really helped and not only are we having MUCH better sex but managed to have an open and frank disscussion about our crap sex life :) agaqin thankyou :) xxx
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 February 2011):
1) Lots of things, but it all depends on how willing your partner is. Do you have any fantasies you can explore? Sex should be about you too. Don't forget that. It might add some excitement if he thought he was fulfilling one of your deepest desires.
2) Does oral work? Some women are impossible to make cum vaginally. It's just how they're wired. Many women report that they are much more likely to orgasm when their mind is stimulated too. Perhaps you need more foreplay. That would definitely be a good place to start.
3) Good idea. Some of my favorites are, maid/homeowner, secretary/boss, nurse/patient, teacher/naughty student. Your best bet is to talk to him first. Tell him you want to try this and see if he'll play along. Then again, surprising him in costume might be a turn on too. I know it would be for me, but I'm really sexually open too.
4) That's a lot harder. He may not have it in him to play that part. Some people just can't be a good dominant lover. Others will spank you like the naughty girl you are. Usually this is something you need to build into. Try starting small, but if he's not into it, then this isn't going to go anywhere.
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