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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of a year has just dumped me because i find sex too painful, sometimes it burns and I never ever enjoy it. What is wrong with me? Can anyone help? I'm never gonna have a boyfriend with this problem. Im too embarrassed to see a dr. Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 Hey doll,
Well, firstly - your boyfriend is a major jerk. There are plenty of good guys that would've stuck with you and helped you through these problems. Remember, this problem is only physical - it has nothing to do with YOU as a person.
I think you should go see a doctor. Find a good gynecologist to go to. There's no need to be embarrassed - just try to remember that they're DOCTORS and all they deal with is vagina's and sex and issues that arise. They have honestly - HEARD IT ALL. I had the same problem you did (burning, discomfort during sex), and I went to a doctor, they gave me some medicine and it was better. No big deal.
If you have an infection (which can be contracted through lots of things - not just sexual intercourse) you do NOT want to leave it hanging... it can turn into something much worse (including cervical cancer) and affect the rest of your life. So don't be scared, don't be nervous... be SMART and protect yourself.
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
P.S. Again, your ex-boyfriend was a major jerk. Don't judge all men on him.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): Well I think you should see your doctor. I too am scared of seeing doctors but I think that your fear that something may be wrong with you down there is making this whole experience much worse. In fact, it probably is simply that you are nervous and tense and that is why it hurts. But it seems like you are concerned about your well being down there and I think that is causing your anxieties. And the only one who can assure you and put your fears to rest is your doctor. And I guarantee you that is exactly what he or she will do.
Just go see your doctor. Even if just once. I too was scared to go to the doctor and it turned out nothing was wrong with me. But I put so much stress and made up so much assumptions about my well being that I drove myself nuts. Just call a friend up right now and ask if she will go with you to the doc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): There could be many reasons why sex was uncomfortable. Usually a burning sensation would be down to not being 'wet' enough or him being particuarly large down below and you were not relaxed enough to take him.
Its still a pretty crappy thing to dump you for so he didnt deserve you anyway. You will have other boyfriends and im sure that the more comfortable you are and the more foreplay etc, you will have a completely normal, successfull sex life
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