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writes:My boyfriend doesn't satisfy me in bed.I've had some problems with sex and have had counselling for them. The short version is, I spent my sexual life trying to please others and not me. Since I've been sorting myself out and trying to get something from sex for me, I've realised that I just don't enjoy it with my boyfriend!!!He does try and enjoys giving me oral and stuff but I feel like it's just all about him after that. I know he wants me to enjoy it but just as I'm getting going, he'd finishing off!! It's really frustrating me, how can I learn to have sex for my own pleasure when it just isn't pleasuring me?!Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2006): That is the answer. You feel it is all about him. Honey you are projecting your anger and resentment on him.
It isn't all about him...oral sex? That is about you. He wants to pleasure you. He wants to love you.
Take charge and tell him. Tell him when it feels good and tell him if you want faster, more pressure...he needs to be taught how to please you.
Ever thought to consult a sex therapist?
I say your boyfriend has the power and capability to give you mind blowing orgasms. You both have the fun of discovering what will get you going.
http://www.female-orgasm-help.com/
http://www.sexinfo101.com/ic_femaleorgasms.shtml
This may be of help to you both.
Some of the advice I question.
This is all about self discovery.
Also go to your local book store and pick up a book on the female pleasure spots and the joys of sex.
Best of Wishes Sweetie.
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