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writes:I was with my ex for 8 years. We broke up around 18 months ago, it wasnt a nice break up but we cut all contact and havent spoken to him since. He pops into my head every now and then but thats all. A few months after we seperated i met someone else, Fast forward a year were together, happy and in love.Things have moved very fast and were already living together. Tonight i saw a picture of my ex with his new girlfriend. This felt as though i had been punched in my tummy! I honestly dont think i have feelings for him but am wondering why i feel like this and what this means about my current relationship?
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reader, Kingu  +, writes (26 November 2014):
 I think the punched in the stomach feeling you have is Fear. You were with your ex for eight years so that must have been a very committed relationship and it came to an end. Now you are once again happy, in love and in another committed relationship. Seeing you ex after so long served as a reminder of what happened last time you were this happy. You subconsciously fear history repeating yourself. Your worry and anxiety is manifesting itself as that twisting in the gut sensation. It is probably not jealousy you are feeling but fear of losing what you treasure so much. A perfectly normal reaction.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 November 2014):
 It's just a competition thing. You were with him for 8 years and got no ring while she got it after just a year or so. Even though he may not be the guy for you, your head only calculates what you didn't get out of.
It doesn't have to mean a thing for your current relationship. The less thought and analyzing you put into this, the better because you don't want to make a problem out of nothing.
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