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writes: I am madly in love with my sister in law. I have been madly in love with her for fourteen years. I have held it in all this time. She is now all I think about.We recently spent quite a good deal of time together because she was living with us as we were helping her out. Now I cannot get her off of my mind. I know that if anyone knew what I felt it would destroy my family. I think it would also destroy my relationship with my sister in law. I wish that I could just tell her how I feel just to get it out because it is killing me. I wish I had married her. I met her shortly after I met my wife and I was instantly in love with her the first night I met her. I never acted on it then because I thought it would be a horrible thing to do. I wound up marrying my wife because she got pregnant and I wanted to do the right thing. But I have always held this secret love for her sister. I am so tormented that I have considered taking my own life because I cannot bear to live this way. It is horrible to know that I could never have the one that I love above all others. There is nobody who makes me feel like she does. There never has been and there never will be. What can I do???From: A tormented Soul.........
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): I think you owe it to yourself to tell her! You have only a wife you don't love to lose.... tell her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): hey... why don't you pm me n we can talk about this one on one. i know this is really hard for you. and my little response wont really help because i'm sure one response can't help a situation occurring for 14 years.
so pm me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2006): I would hate to say this to anyone - but I think you are stuck. Yes, we have only one life and should be with the person we love, but there are too many people involved here. I know, I am in a similar position (extremely attracted to my brother in law) but I could never hurt that many people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2006): Smiler:I have loved my wife but never as much as I love her sister. And our relationship has not been strong in years. She is a very negative person who always bitingly criticizes. She never has anything nice to say. This love that I have for her sister is something inside that I have never told anyone. I have never shown outwardly to her the feelings that I have. I have tried and tried and tried to make my marriage work. I have taken her to counseling and counseling always goes the same. We will both be given things that we need to change and I will change and she never does. I believe my relationship with my wife and my love for her sister are two different issues entirely. No I do not know that her sister feels that way for me. In fact I am pretty sure she doesn't, that's why I know I cannot act on it. My sister in law loves me as a brother I am sure. If she knew how I felt I think it would devastate her and destroy our relationship. So for now I remain......
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reader, Smiler +, writes (18 June 2006):
 Hey thereFirstly i'm sorry your so sad :o( you should never consider ending your life over anything... there is no good reason for that sweetie, now i'm going to give you my honest advice here ok it may come across harsh in some parts please don't take it offensively its just my opinion ok.What are you honestly thinking about here babe??? its obviously not your wife is it? I can't honaestly believe that you are here telling us that you only married your wife cause she was pregnant thats a terrible thing to say, you must of loved her once and if not why would you marry this poor women when all along you were harbopuring feelings for her sister that is a really aweful thing to admit! Do you even love your wife? Imagine just how hurt your wife will be when you tell her your intentions? have you no compassion at all? your right too mention the fact that you will destroy your family with this and what i can't understand is how you say you'll destroy your relationship with the sister too? so i'm assuming from that she doesn't know how you feel about her either what if she doesn't feel the same way you will have destroyed burnt all those bridges for nothing... this is very forbidden love sweetie and surely not worth breaking all those hearts for particularly as your not even sure she feels the same way. Nothing good can come from this just lots of tears and heartache. Im so glad you showed some restraint and didn't acton these feelings, that would have seemed like the ultimate betrayal from your wifes point of veiw try to consider your wedding vows and your wfes feelings in all this plus your child/children? You say you have loved her for 14 years? Have you evre loved your wife? part of me inside is very upset after reading this cause i too have 3 sisters and know just how i would feel if my man was in love with my sisters and only married me cause i was pregnant.I hope my advice was able to help you out with your situation sweetie and good luck with this... if you ever need a friend or a chat or just more advice don't hesitate to email me sweetie, I would love to hear from you again and know how you got on... Remember i'm always here for you anytime okYou Take Care Sweetie X
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