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writes:hi dear cupid,This time I am really longing for help. I was scheduled to be married next week but my fiancee tells me he can not make it. He said he has a fear, he has scared of the future but he said he will always love me. I am totaly down at this moment, I cant understand why he is doing this to me, he is asking for me understanding and im trying it but what about my feelings? What about me? please somebody tell me what to do. please i am really on the desperate situation now. please.......... gladyz
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 August 2007):
 Gladyz,
I saw your other post, but I want to help you with this one, too.
I can't imagine what this must feel like. The pain must be huge: you learned that he doesn't love you and all your life plans are useless now. I bet you're so confused, so hurt, and so, so terribly sad.
You don't have to be understanding. He had doubts about marrying and he won't. This isn't about anything you did.
A very hard lesson to learn is that sometimes people will not commit to us no matter how good we are or how hard we try. He didn't commit to you. At least he didn't marry you; do you imagine what your life would be if you had married a man who had fears about being with you? I think nothing would be worse than that.
You need to be strong and think that this too shall pass. Focus on other things, and stop thinking about what happened. Resume your normal life. This will help you with the pain.
My heart is with you.
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