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writes:I've just met the man i love and he's working away and comes back on weekend. I'm ready to have sex with him and i'm sure he wants it but we're both scared to start the topic. I so wish i could have sex with him. I don't know where to start. Should i tell him how i feel? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou guys have made me regain my confidence. I apretiate it
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2012): What's to be scared about? Honestly, if you're planning to be a couple then sex has to play a part sooner or later.
Him being a guy, I doubt he'll begrudge you bringing the topic up with him to be honest.
If you feel awkward about bringing it up though, why not just see where things lead naturally the next time you both get intimate? Usually it won't take much initiative once the 'intimate ball' gets rolling for two people to get into the swing of things.
Just go with the flow.
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reader, Htsn47  +, writes (21 September 2012):
 Of course you should! Maybe he's just being respectful! Have either of you had sex before? You have a great opportunity to set a tone for your relationship where you can talk about sex openly. That can be a huge benefit. I'm really thankful my wife was open about talking about sex from the very start - it made things much, much easier for me. I was a virgin when we met, and she was not, and I also had some performance anxiety too. Being able to talk to her about how I'm feeling makes it so much easier for both of us!Maybe it would help if you asked yourself why you feel scared to start the topic. Are you afraid he doesn't want to have sex with him? Are you afraid you'll seem too forward if you start the topic? Remember, also, that before you have sex you ought to talk about STD testing and contraception. Not the most romantic of topics, but if he cares about you, he'll understand.
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