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writes:Dear Cupid, I am 23 and have been married for 2 years and have a beautiful baby boy who is 18 months old. My situation in indeed tough and stressful. I am married to a woman who is from South America and I live here her and my son live down there. For the 2 years we have been married we have physically been together for 9 months. I see them almost every day via web cam. For the last few months every time we talk on the phone or online we usually end up cussing each other out and not talking much. I mostly now just like to see my son. I have went back an forth saying I do love her then I go back to saying I'm with her just so I don't lose my son, because she has said before that I will never see my son again and he will not ever know who you are. It really irritates me and really pisses me off when she does. I feel like I've lost the ability to have feelings anymore for anything. I just am scared to death if I decided I do no longer love her I will lose my son forever and I will kill me to have that happen. I have so much going on this just adds to my list of stress. Please if anyone has any suggestion I would love to hear them. Reply to this Question
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reader, Not so sure anymore +, writes (8 April 2009):
Not so sure anymore is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your response. I have thought a lot about it and I'm still not sure what I'm gonna do. Thank you for your input and I will take great consideration in making my decision.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 April 2009):
 It is awful that your wife said you will never see your son again, and that he will never know who you are. I don't know where in South America they are, but in all of our countries fathers have rights, too. This is not a comment you should take lightly. I think you should take steps to prevent your son from growing up without any contact with you.
Now, as to the relationship thing, it is pretty clear that the spark has gone away, due to the distance. You just don't want to lose your son, and she knows it. And so do you.
I suggest that you travel to that country, whatever it is, and that you create a bond with your son.
When I see this kind of posts, I tend to take the children's side. How awful it is that your child's mother is thinking about depriving him of the company of his father. She has no right to do this. What's more, your son has a right to see you, and so do you. Make sure your right is respected. I can't give you any more opinions, as I only know the legal system of one Latin American country.
Wish you and your child the best.
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