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writes:REVENGE... a powerful word..Has anyone tried it yet? Is it true that it makes you forget the pain? (I just want him to feel the same way I am feeling)..any comments? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): “Revenge... is like a rolling stone, which, when a man hath forced up a hill, will return upon him with a greater violence, and break those bones whose sinews gave it motion.”
Albert Schweitzer
Today you wreck your revenge on him . Tomorrow he will come back with a greater revenge back on you . When will this vicious cycle end?
"There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.”
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 October 2008):
 Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhen you think it is cold again you do:)sometimes people temp you, and you think that they have changed,and someone when you love someone so much,you just forget about the pain,but after another heartbreak,you beat yourself again and again!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 October 2008):
It's self-preservation. Do you touch a hot iron over and over again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioneyes,after managing this thing you all call forgivness it's just another chance for a heartbreak!
and you can always tell someone to move on,because that someone ain't you..
i know you know that moving on,sometimes seems impossible!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 October 2008):
How did you management to allow him to break your heart over and over again? Get rid and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou know i have tried everything.they say time heals a broken heart,but it don't!he has broke my heart like a thousand time.don't i deserve a little revenge?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Pesonally I dont bother with revenge. If someone does something hurtful to me I focus on living the best life I can as I see that as a better form of revenge.
Those people who go out of their way to hurt others or are so selfish they dont realise their actions are affection others are often unhappy people ultimantly.
Hold your head up high....if you cant do this at least tell us what you have in mind for revenge lol
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 This opinion of mine will indeed sound like so cheaply sweetened a potion that your teeth will decay in no time. But this is what I can honestly tell you.
Have you tried forgiveness? Yes, it makes you feel like the other person got away with whatever he or she did. And indeed, that is often the case. This seems to be the option of people without a backbone. However, forgiveness sets you free, which is what I'm concerned about.
If someone has done you a lot of harm, quite naturally we tend to ruminate our grudge. That means we keep the damage alive. We can't go near the person, or see him/her, or whatever, without feeling that we were done damage and we need to get even.
When you let go of those feelings, the other person ceases to have an effect on you. You are free to move on to other interests. Whatever harm the other person did, it stays in the past, and time wears it off, little by little.
Here you are, a 21-year old at most. Don't waste your precious time remembering what someone did. Use your time to get the most out of life. Also, use your time to reflect about how it was that this person came to hurt you, and don't let it happen again.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 October 2008):
Yep, Uncle Phil's right. Moving on and having a wonderful life is the sweetest revenge. Doing something nasty to somebody usually comes around and bites you in the butt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): I've not tried it directly - but I do know that I'm a lot happier and better off than she is in many ways. When we divorced she thought she'd got the better end of the deal. At the time she did, financially - house, car etc., but these days (22 years on) I'm in clover compared to her. Which is enough revenge I suppose!
Give it time - you'll feel better one day.
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