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writes: Hello :) Me and boyfriend are in a long distance relationship, He lives in Nottingham/Leicster and I live in Portsmouth, I have trust issues with him and cant seem to trust him, although hes never cheated before on me or anyone. So I have no reason to. Im very clingy to him and I dont understand why. Theres lots I love about him hes very attractive, very hard working, a lovely family, and loves me to bits. But every so often I find myself questioning whether I want to stay with him, for no apparent reason. This tends to be after like days of not seeing him and we are both seperatly at home. But when I am with him, I feel like Im in a different world and so happy.I also tend to find very small things to get really pissed off at him for. There are some bad points about him though that are not really part of him. Hes in debt by quite a few thousand and lives so far away. Oh and between you and me the sex isnt all that great :( What do I do? Move on and find someone else? Oh and another thing, I have a fantastic social life up there, all his mates are great to hang out with, but If I split with Ash it'll meanthat whole side of my life will be gone and there would be no reason to go up to Nottingham again as none of his mates will let me stay up there with one of them. Im stuck. I dont wanna lose that side of my life but I cant stay with Ashley being so unkind to him like that.
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reader, camille  +, writes (29 August 2006):
 Oh dear, you don't see him that often but he irritates you. During that time apart you think about what's wrong with the relationship and say the sex is not that great, I don't think this relationship is working. It's good that you're happy when you're with him, but as that's only at weekends/holidays (I assume), what about the rest of the time? That's a lot of time. Haven't you got your own friends in Portsmouth? The issue about not going to Nottingham for the social life if you split is strange. It sounds like that's more important. But they are his friends and chances are if you lose him, you lose them, but maybe in time, you can meet up with them in the future, but not right now. You need to focus on your life and get your own social life going where you live. Just a thought but are your trust issues anything to do with a previous relationship or are your parents divorced?
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