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writes:Hi, well i'm on huge pain right now,my girlfriend dump me, in the most painful way.We've been together for almost eleven months it was my first "serious" relationship, i was deeply in love. Well, the last 3-4 months were really REALLY bad, in fact we ended the relationship like 4 times in a row. I mean she gave a last chance ( 'cause i really felt guilty) and i was really putting an enourmous effort into the relationship, she was so happy!! I mean it all started to be the way it was supposed to be!! But her family told her to stop seeing me, that i was not allowed at all to visit her anymore!! She was kind of sad but we continued seeing each other "secretly" for about a month, it was so nice!! Then the disaster...she started to act very strange, she was not answering calls, text messages, the tipical "ok" answers,and so on...she told that she wanted to be my friend, not my girlfriend anymore, well i had no chance and i accepted...the following week she told me that she likes this boy (a geek that's been stalking her since 7 grade!!) and i was like "that's ok but is not too early to start something?" and she freaked out!! I mean she exploted! she told me that she can't be my friend anymore, that she hated me that i was the worst thing that has ever happened in her life..harsh words...I started NC from that day...10 days later she called me and we started to talk, we had a nice conversation, we met each other 3 days later it was amazing!! We hugged and kissed each other, we even cried together!! She told me that she wanted to remain friends for now 'cause she didn't wanted to hurt the other boy, i was ok with it...we started talking everyday since then but she started calling me "stupid" and other kind of words, then i told her "i won't hide it anymore i still love you" she was like "i know" well day passed and we talked and laughed a lot!! She even called me once telling me that she stills feels something special for me that i was so special for her...well one day i got this text message from her cousin telling me to stop talking "sh and #$" about her and that she knows that i don't love her and all that kind of stuff then i talked to her and told me "later we talk..." i mean wtf!! She told me then that i was not good for her, that shes a million times better without me that she doesnt wants to hurt the other guy ( and i know they barely talk...) ...i told her that i really feel a lot of nice things for her and that i will always be with my arms wide open for her and from there NC at all...now i see that she's leaving "love you" kind of messages on his myspace and i know that they've been hanging around even when we talked!...it's kind of depressing i gave all hopes and my dreams for her...she told me that the only thing she wants its to forget me that she better without me that i'm a complete jerk that i'm paying for all...i mean everyone i mean EVERYONE i know tells me that i've been through so much "sH$%" that soon she will realise what she lost, that she's on a "rebound", she even told one friend of mine that she was having fun being cruel to me!! I really love her, i would accept an apology from her, i know she's under the influence of a lot of people...sorry if this was a long post i want you to get the whole picture....do you believe she's on a rebound? do you believe she's going to realize that i really love her? Should i stay NC? Do you see any chances of really getting back? What do you believe its going through her mind? I really miss her :( i just can't stop crying over her even though i feel very hurt...will she ever open her eyes?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): Idk if she will open her eyes but you should! It sounds like you both need to group. I would just let it go and move on. Your still young and it was your first real relationship so I know how horrible you must feel because we've all been there, but you gotta move on. Either stay single for a while or find someone else, but a girl that's a little more mature. You'll be ok you just gotta cut her loose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): I know how you feel as one of my ex boyfriends i was with for 4 years did the same thing to me when i was 18. He kept saying he loved me, then didnt. Wanted to be with me... then didnt. it was all very confusing. But dont let this girl mess with your head. I know you love her, but you can get over her.
She obviously is quite immature or mean. She is toying with you and thats not fair. The fact that shes started another relationship proves that she isnt really bothered about hurting you. Rebound or not, its quite obvious that this relationship isnt going to work. Stay away from her and move on. You're young you will DEFINITELY find someone else.
I know you dont feel like you will ever get over her but i felt the same about my ex. Now im with the most amazing perfect man who treats me like a queen and we're having a baby together... trust me things get better, and the first step is to get rid of her. FOR GOOD!
Some food for your thought. TC
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): tbh she is playing you!
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