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writes:when do i know im ready to start another relationship when my first true love just broke up with me i am shattered over it. in a million peices. i feel like love will never be the same.
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (13 October 2007):
 I know what you're going through, Sealmire, and I don't think people are lying when they say "everybody goes through this". What you're going through is almost a fact of life, so to speak.
You're probably thinking "Well, we could have stayed together the rest of our lives. We could have overcome the odds" ect, because these are the thoughts I've had, and have continued to have for the past 3 1/2 months.
As frustrating as it is, there's no other advice people can give other than to tell you that time will heal your wounds. I know this because I have posted literally dozens of questions like this, and have recieved that very same answer. The only other advice that can be given here is: Occupy your time. Do things you enjoy that can help you switch off that part of your mind that thinks about her. Sport is a great way to keep your mind focused, so I suggest it.
Anyway, I feel your pain, and I hope that you will be able to get over this quicker than I have. It isn't easy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007): Unfortunately we all have to go through heartbreak at some time or another. It is a lesson to teach us that sometimes people are not who they first appear to be, feelings are not always what they seem and there is not only one person each in this world that can make us happy.
It teaches us to open our minds, to grow stronger and to be aware of those around us and their intensions.
It hurts so badly at times we wonder why we put ourselves through it yet however much we are hurt, eventually we find ourselves needing someone to share our love with, someone to hold close and someone to talk to whenever we are in need.
You have just had your heart broken and no I dont think anyone is ever like your first love. Then again nor is the pain from breaking up from other relationships but love does improve and we learn to love people in different ways. I hope you find happiness and your wounds heal quickly. x
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (13 October 2007):
 I know its not nice splitting up with someone, espessially when it was your first love. You feel like your world has just caved in and you can see no way out. But i can tell you from hinsight & experience that things will surely get better for you, time really is the healer of all pain. Don't be in to much of a rush to get back into another relationship, give it time, go out, have fun with friends and enjoy life. When you feel your 100% ready then go for another realationship, but don't go looking for it, invariably we meet out perfect partners when we least expect it.
All the best & good luck x
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