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writes:Here goes...Im 18 years old with a girlfriend who i really do love. Whenever we are gonna have sex we both know it becauseits only when she is at my house. My problem is I always lose my erection when we are about to do it. I will be laying next to her as hard as a rock, but right when i get in position it instantly dies. As a man who enjoys sex this really blows! somebody help please, its just as frustrating for my partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): Huh, I've run into this myself. There are a few options for you to consider. Intentionally deny yourself satisfaction for a time (lack of masturbation, no getting blowjobs/handjobs, etc etc.)As counter-intuitive as it seems, you might think about intentionally closing your eyes and thinking about something else besides the fact you're about to penetrate. This should be simple, we are men, if push comes to shove try focusing on her tits/ass/feet/whatever while she positions herself. Buy a (sorry for the language) cock-ring. Application after full arousal can restrict blood flow /out/ of the penis and thus at least assist in keeping you hard. Additionally (as an extra bonus) they can add to the sensation for both you and your girl. Some vibrate heat up/cool down, and the variety of textures/sizes out there would boggle your mind. (An extreme version of this is to tie a piece of strong around the base, tightly, so as to completely restrict blood flow for a short period, get inside, get into the groove and then take it off. This is easier if you can enjoy a little pain during intercourse. )Worse comes to worse, go see a doc (I know, not a pleasant prospect) and get a low dose of an ED medication. Just be careful with use, as you can become dependant and they can cause some severe headaches. (Counter intuitive to maintaining an erection, but nothing is perfect.)tl;dr, you have lots of options, try them until you find one that works. One thing is for sure, worrying and fretting over it won't help anything.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 November 2010):
You need to relax. The problem is that you're not relaxed about it, and you're not becoming frustrated, which in turn is doing nothing to help you relax.
spend more time on foreplay and just having fun with your girlfriend, then you'll be more relaxed, and hopefully the problem will go away. Clearly if it continues, you may need to see a doctor. But it just sounds like you're letting this get to you, so your mind is causing it to happen. Relax about it, explain that you and your girlfriend both need to relax about it.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Honestly, I would see a doctor about this. It could potentially be something medical (possibly a blocked vessel that is constricting blood flow to your erection and making you go soft) or something of that nature.
Has this happened before or is it just a recent development? Obviously she turns you on or else you wouldn't be able to get hard in the first place, but if I were you I would see a medical professional.
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