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writes:Recently I just found out I’m pregnant – My boyfriend and his whole family are very excited. The problem is there are two of his guy friends that have been creating some problems. They tell him to change his number or how does he know that he is the Father that I might be sleeping around and he should get a D.N.A test. He sorta tried to let it slide off his back thinking the guys were just giving him a hard time. But they are saying it every time they hangout and recently the took it a step up and emailed me a very nasty letter even talking about how they know someone that could take care of this problem –(meaning killing the baby) and that if I thought he was going to be there for me I was wrong. I know this is very hurtful to my boyfriend and it is stressing me out. He has no idea why there are doing this and not being supportive saying his is going to drop his friends over this. Is there anything I should do I don’t know if I should stay quiet or say something? It is not like we are young kids either I’m 26 years old and we are both very excited about starting a family together Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): i agree with the first poster. I think you should tell him everything about these friends of his. If he says he is willing to drop his friend, make sure he does. They are no good friends if they are treating you like this.
They may be jeleous of you both. Him becoming a father means less time at the pub so to speak and they might be selfish enough to want him all to themselves and keep the young guys group going. Although in my opinion, their actions are going overboard.
I would tell your boyfriend to ditch these friends of his. Why should you suffer for it?
You know you will get more and more emotional as you get deeper into your pregnancy. Having these worries and stress isn't going to help you at all or your baby!
PLEASE get rid of them! Show your boyfriend the e-mail! Just get them away. Tell your family, get support from them all.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): His hates that his friends are doing this - I would never tell him to stop talking to his friends he said that own his own. Maternity test thing - he believes me I would take one if he wanted me too but we were on vacation for two weeks together when I got pregnant so that is pretty much pointless lol. It is only two of his guy friends - the other ones are very happy for him. He told me he wants to sort this out and have a word with them - but it just concerns me they are emailing me hurtful over the line emails. I don't know if I should try talking to them or just chalk it up to inmature guys and just forget about it.
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reader, tux +, writes (20 May 2009):
 You may be in between a rock and a hard place depending on how close he is to these "friends." Personally, I would talk to him and ask him how he feels about his "friends" saying what they are saying.. It will not do you any good to say that he shouldn't be talking to them though.. Just see how he feels about them.. Worse comes to worse, you can always be willing with him to take a paternity test if he doesn't fully believes you, not that you need to go out and have one, but if you are willing to get the test, then most likely that will give him more trust in you.
But I would just sit down with him and ask him what he feels completely about the situation and reassure him what is completely going on.
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