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writes:well, this might be a little bit of a long story leading up to my question. but i feel it's neccasary to tell it before i ask the question.so if you don't have time to read the story before the question don't even bother answering it.:] thanks.well, about two years ago i met a guy on myspace. at the time i was only fifteen. and wasn't too sure about "love." he was just really sweet and very caring. i don't really want to mention his name. so we'll just call him skip. xDso skip was well, "easy to fall in love with" he was the guy that you know all the girls want. or whenever he walked by shortlly later all the girls sigh. skip lived in michagen. i lived in colorado.skip had a brother named "joe."i had a friend named "jenny."me and "jenny" were always arounf eachother. therefor she know all about skip. now jenny was the kind of girl who would do anything to get someone elses boyfriend. [even though skip wasn't my boyfriend... he was a "lover" i guess you could say.] but i only found that out after everything happend between me and skip.i don't fall in love easily. i had never fallen "head over hells" for amyone before skip.i had fallen really fond of a few guys. but never "in love." well anyway... over about a year and a half me and skip started talking more and more. after a year skip told me he thought he was falling in love with me. i didn't know what to say. but you know isn't like when you find your soul mate your always "speachless." hmmm, mabie just in fairy tales.after another month or so i thought i was falling for skip. i thought about him all the time. i couldn't sleep at night. everytime he called my heart skipped a beat. his messages and letters made me so happy. i read them over and over and over again. each time feeling more in love with him.so, one night me and skip were on the phone. and jenny was over. so as a joke skip asked joe if he wanted to go out with me. and me being all open, thinking it was a joke i saqid i would.but then i realized it wasn't a joke. and i felt torn apart.now, me and skip never were "boyfriend and girlfriend" and that night once i agreed to go out with his brother he informed me that he was planning on asking me out that very night.well, jenny felt it was a great idea to ask skip out. then bestfriends could date brothers. she was thrilled about the idea.skip of coarse said yes.my heart felt riped up.so for a long time i was so upset about what happend that i didn't realize very slowlly i was falling for joe. now jenny said she "loved" skip. even though she had been with him like two weeks. me and skip started fading apart from eachother. and more than anything i wish i would have just said no to joe.for a while me and skip had this plan that i would ask jenny if she wanted to swap boyfriends. and skip would ask joe if he wanted to trade girlfriends. jenny agreed. joe did not. so i tried thinking of really nice ways to break up with joe.but then i finally noticed i was starting to like him more than i thought could ever happen. so me and skip went our different ways. me and joe stayed toghther. and we lasted about three months. and then it was on-and-off. now, i know i will never love anyone as much as i loved skip. but i found that joe was the next best thing. i guess i want to blaim what happend on skip. but it was my fault for saying yes in the first. so later on me and joe started falling "in love." even though i loved him... i wasn't in love with him like i was skip.at one point joe broke up with me saying he needed time to think then he got with my bestfriend and girlfriend at the time. [yes, i had a girlfriend and a boyfriend.]i was really hurt. and have never forgiven him.now a days me and joe are still on-and-off. and i still love him. as far as i know.alright i think that's quit enough.so here are my questions:question one: who should i blaim for having me end up with joe? or should i take responsability?question two: am i crazy for being the way i am?question three: i still don't forgive jenny for doing what she did. only because she knew i was in love with skip. should i get rid of the grudge. or do i have a reason to be the way i am?question four: should i forgive joe for leaving me for my best friend and lieing about it?question five: i know i was in love with skip. am i in love with joe or am i just making myself think that?thank you so much for reading this. it would mean the world to me if you could help me out on some of this stuff. :]
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (19 July 2008):
 i agree with delphine to a degree.. dont go out with joe again he cant be trusted and obviously doesnt love you enough to only be with you..can you get in touch with skip? if you feel so much for skip what would stop you from having him..to a degree it is your fault. but the important part is to learn from your mistakes..if joes second best why dont you let him go and have is no 1 as you so seem to want the same thing..second of all if you truly feel that way for skip then go get him and if he dont want anything then your not ment for either of them. and you should make a fresh start with your life and just learn from your mistakes..you obviously have feelings for joe but seems their not as strong as they were with skip. thats my thoughts hope it helps aphex x
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reader, delphine +, writes (19 July 2008):
1) i think that its your blaim as you said yes to going with joe, and skip clearly wanted to be with you, and you could have broke up with joe anyday. and b with your soulmate skip
2)crazy? wel i dunno. =]
3) when you and skip had that plan to swap gf/bf, jenny agreed to leave skip, the love she "loves" and be with joe, knowing that youre gonn to be happy with him
4)forgive joe but i dont think you should go out with him again, just stay friends, as everyone deseves a 2nd chance, but he cant be trust
5) i dunno again =]
sorri im no help!
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