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writes:ok well id like to know why guys worry so much about the size of their penis? why is it such a big concern for them? why is it a competition? i dont hear girls comparing the size of their vagina. what is it about it that makes them feel such varity of feelings over its size? why do men think that us women are so picky that we would ever tease them about their size?guys do share your thoughts on this subject, im sure each and every one of you has your own opinion on the matter. so please share.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): As for me I feel very insecure because its small and she may not enjoy with me, as much as with others who have the big one, and because of others big & good one I feel I may loose her. That is what the fear I have. I don't know about others but good thing is I got response that, it is ok not bad, so I am happy but still there is insecure feeling pricks in my mind always.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 It goes beyond performance. Our penis is an embodiment of us and our sexuality. It is both an appearence thing and a performance thing. It's what makes us men. As men, we want the embodiment of our manhood to be the best it can be in every way. That's where all this comes from.
When a guy learns that his manhood isn't dependent upon his penis, it's a very liberating feeling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni can totally understand why a man would feel concerned that he was not performing up to the standards his women had, had in the past.i agree with the penis breast analogy to an extent, but like another reader explained breast size is about appearence and penis size is about performance and being able to please a women.i think the wors thing you could say toa guy is well isnt "he" small, it seems that, that is the ultimate insult. advice to women(not that you would ever do this) never say his package is small or below average. say its big, but dont say its giganitc if its not..im sure he will no that its not that big.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Like the person who posted previously, I'm a little above average, but I tend to wonder about size if I'm with a woman who has been with a much larger man in the past.
This depends somewhat on the situation. If I'm with a woman who is tight down there, its hard to believe anything much bigger would have been enjoyable. But, if she's loose, its quite believable that bigger would have been better. If she had been with a very large man for quite some period of time and she's loose, I can't help but wonder if she's loose because she had been with a very large one frequently.
No matter how many techniques, etc. a guy learns, there is nothing he can ever do about size. If woman did like the larger ones better, there's absolutely nothing he can do that will provide the same sensations.
Also (probably as a result of watching porn), I find it easy to imagine a woman being with a much larger man and abolutely loving it, screaming in ecstacy as she has orgasm after orgasm as she gets hammered by a huge cock. It tends to create an image (however unrealistic) in my mind of something that I can never achieve with a woman.
It can be tough to get over the insecurity because its easy to dismiss positive comments from women as being white lies that are designed to obscure the truth. Telling a guy you like his unit is probably a good idea, but I wouldn't do it constantly, especially if you've been with a much larger man in the past, and the man you're with knows it. In that situation, it tends to make the guy think it is on the woman's mind, and that it must therefore be an issue for her.
The analogy to womens breasts is probably a decent one, but there are some differences. As I see it (so to speak) breast size is primarily an appearance issue. The size of one's unit is potentially directly related to your ability to physically please a woman during intercourse. For whatever reason, it wouldn't bother me very much to think that a woman wouldn't find my penis as arousing as a larger one based on appearance, but it does bother me to think that she doesn't like intercourse as much with me as she did with a larger man. And, of course, women can always get breast implants if they want.
Although I am not as concerned about breast size as a I was when I was younger, it is still a factor. If the analogy between penis and breast size is accurate, it would mean that there are a lot of women who actually do care about penis size, at least to some extent.
None of us are perfect, but it does seem to be especially difficult to accept the thought that one's unit is "inferior" in some sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): because alot of your gender beat the living hell out of guys over it and the media is hell bent on denigrating guys who are not only smaller but guys who are average as well.Alot of you gawk at some male porno actors abnormal genitals and act as though anything less is inadequate.My advice for those who think its a big deal would be stop throwing stones from glass houses.Karma is an unforgiving sob.
If the average 5-7 isn't enough its YOUR problem not the guys-do you kegals or whatever.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (31 January 2011):
Guys just want to be the best. Want to make our day? Tell us you love our cock. It's silly, but I guarantee if you have a guy who's insecure about what he has, hearing those words, unsolicited, will give him confidence he didn't know he had.
We are concerned about if you like it, if we're able to please you, if you're just saying it doesn't matter to make us feel better. All those insecurities come to play, that's why you just have to reassure your man that you love it and that he's a great lover.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): I will say honestly, that the times I have worried about size were when I knew the girl had much larger. I never worried about not being able to please with my slightly above average one, but wondered if my girl experienced something amazing with his huge one that she never will with me...more intense orgasms, feeling it deeper, feeling that he was more powerful or a stronger man, etc. I know I am the best sex my girl has ever had, but there will always be a part of me that knows I will not be able to touch her as deeply, on a physical level anyway, as he did. But when relationships with well hung men end, I think most women tuck the size thing away in their head as "he was big, but not the best". Of the women I've known who liked the man with the biggest penis the most, it was because he married her because he was the best guy for her. I dont think too many women go around with an image of some giant, glistening cock in their head all the time. But that's my answer...I dont fear not pleasing her, I fear her having had a better time with someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Yeah dirtball's words are mine too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, for the answers.so am i right to say its a performance thing? a guy wants to be able to perform well in bed and feels bad if he does not have the right "tools"?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): because you cant see the size of a woman's vagina ,
most woman don't bother exercising that area so it becomes "loose" making us smaller guys feel tiny, cant touch the sides (insert joke here)
if a girl has had 10 kids then its understandable.
if not , it must be the guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): I suspect it's that it's more difficult to give a woman a satisfactory experience. And that as a consequence men assume that the larger the better. Let's get real -- a guy gets off, he's done, it's good. And she's lying there thinking, that's it? So if he's bigger, then it must work better for her, right? We're assuming that the bigger we are, the more nerves we're hitting so the better it is for you. If that's not the case, then you telling us so would be a great service for humanity.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (31 January 2011):
 Just as dirtball said, it's exactly the same for women when it comes to breast size. We're constantly reminded that bigger is supposedly always better. This idea also comes from products that are marketed in a way that exploits insecurity for profit, which is the tactic used to advertise anything cosmetic. Ever notice how ads for weight loss aids or just about anything in a fashion or beauty magazine makes you feel worse than you did before you saw it? That's exactly what they want to happen.
I can even recall a particular commercial that used to be on tv all the time, it was for an 'enhancement' drug. It had several young women in their 20's raving about how much better a larger penis was, and how 'pathetic' a small one was. Yes, they actually used the word 'pathetic'. Why? To make men feel like crap so they'll spend lots of money on something that won't work.
If either of these things were really that important, I doubt anyone with small breasts or a less than average-sized penis would ever find someone willing to date them, but as we all know this just isn't the case.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (31 January 2011):
Some women are insecure about the size of their vagina, questions come up on here all the time.I think the insecurity is mainly that if your penis is too small then you won't be able to satisfy a woman. Not all women would "tease" them about their size but there are plenty of women who would not be happy with someone who has a small penis. I agree though that men too frequently feel insecure about their size and need to have more confidence in themselves.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (31 January 2011):
For all your questions, replace the word Penis with Breasts, and Men with Women. Then ask yourself these questions and you'll have your answer.
Some of us have learned that size isn't the end all be all to women. Still, media constantly fills us with commercials for enlargement products. Porn fills our heads with images of well endowed men. It's no wonder why we all at some point wonder if we're packing enough.
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