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writes: I have never posted anything online about my relationship or have i ever talk to anyone about it, but i need help. I am 21 and my girlfriend is 20 and we've been together for about one year. But over the past 2 months, we haven't so much as lost interest in eachother but the romance and passion isnt there anymore. We talked about this a few nights ago and we both agree that we have a problem with our relationship. We both also agree that we still love and care about eachother very much. The first 9 or 10 months were great, we were in love were in love. She has told me about a couple relationships that she has been in, in the past, that were totally physical. Now i know that the problem that we have been having are partially my fault, but she blames these relationship for the problems we have been having. She says that every once and awhile she feels bad about herself and becomes very distant with peolpe. She has had one of these "problems" before while we have been together but we got through it mainly because it only lasted a coulpe weeks. Whatever it is she is going through now is worst. She tells me she tells like she a little girl again and only want to feel protected and comforted. I know it must sound like that i am distant for her, but we see eachother alot still and we still cuddle and are still close emotionally. Our overall relationship isnt horribly bad, its just the passion and desire to jump on eachother isnt there. I know our relationship doesnt sound incredibly bad but it is slowly falling apart. I love her very much and i want our relationship to be back the way it was. I'm begging for help. rosco Reply to this Question
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, Wise Worm, writes (6 January 2005): This is normal, after a year of physical attraction you kind of get use to each other. As for her "problems" she might need profesional help. Don't take it personally, be there for her to cofort and protect her, when you make love let it be Caring and Loving, it might be wild and steamy but afterwards tell her how amazing she makes you feel and how special she is to you. Also set special "DATES" don't touch each other for 4 days,or don't contact each other for 2 days. Try it out,you never know.
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