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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi there me and my partner don't always argue but when we do its not really a necessary argument..like we will be taking one moment then he will just start arguing about the most stupidest stuff ever and it sucks and then he doesn't talk to me for like a few days..I don't know really if its his way of testing me but after a while it gets stupid and really ridiculous and I don't like it..we both like eachother a lot and I'm head over heels inlove with him and his to...I just really want to know I should do when he argues with me again for no reason because normally arguments come on there own terms bt in my case he makes an argument come more then usual..he told me that our relationship is to perfect that's why he argues with me...but please I love him so much and don't want to lose him..can you help me out please. Thanks regards annoymass. Reply to this Question
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (22 April 2012):
 Sounds as if your boyfriend is used to drama and fights in relationships , and he probably does it to keep things a little bit more exciting with you.
Arguing is a waste of time though.
It makes no sense for him to argue with you other than he does it out of habit.
Explain how it makes you feel.
Tell him your bored of it now, he should get the idea. This stuff does not bond you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 April 2012):
 This happens frequently in young relationships so I attempt to answer it by what I see generally in people. Men and women differ in relationships. Some men need to disconnect in order to connect later. Women generally have no need to disconnect. What he could have done is ask for some space instead of feeling guilty that he needs space from you, and to reassure you when he will see you again. Tell him starting an argument in order to get space is unnacceptable. You would not lose him. As long as he gets the space to feel like a man. Why do men need to disconnect? Because bonding and nurturing emotions lower his testoserone levels and makes him scared of losing his manliness. He needs time and space to rejuvenate testoserone levels. You can help him by disconnecting yourself, to spare him doing this 'selfish' act himself. On the other hand, determine what kind of space you can agree with. When a man needs space too much it can mean that he shouldn't even be in a relationship. When he retrieves in his cave too much and does that often, it can become and on and off relatoinship. A relationship with a strong foundation should be on most of the time. It sounds like your partner needs to become more emotionally mature to handle a relationship.
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