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writes:My partner has admitted in very graphic detail a 3some he had in his past. This plays on my mind a lot. How do I get over what I know?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2011): How to answer that depends upon how it's bothering you. Is this an issue of morality (or lack therefore) or envy? I strongly suspect the latter since jealousy and envy chew people up more than a lack of morality in others does. By envy I do not necessarily mean that you wish you'd had a threesome, but that you wish you had the attributes that you attach to those who have. For example you might imagine that it takes greater skill, desirability and confidence to have sex with two people at once and it might be THOSE qualities you think you're lacking. Is this the case?It might help you to consider that your partner, being a man, is more likely to highlight sexual experience than understate it. He may consider your sexual pleasure his responsibility and he doesn't want you to think he is a dud in bed. The actual encounter may be far less erotic than he remembers it to be. And you're not hearing it from the women's perspectives.You'll have to elaborate a little more for us to be able help you. There are a lot of blanks left for us to fill in here.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (26 May 2011):
 i've had ex's that have given graphic details of past sexual experiences, as well, and it did bother me. we know that they've had sex before us, more than likely, but when we hear the graphic details, it can often become too much, as we get mental pictures in our head, which are very unpleasant. so i asked that it be stopped and not to do it anymore. and they did. that's all you can really do.i wouldn't dwell on it too much. you probably knew he wasn't a virgin before he met you. so nothing's really changed, except now you know details. try to wipe this thought out of your head the best you can and move on. just make sure he doesn't do it again.
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