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writes:i need to be helped my mom and dad have just split up and my dad wants me but so does my mom i love my mom and i love my dad but who should i go with please help me :(
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Hon, if the age you posted is correct, you don't need to choose one or the other. You can love both of them, spend time with both of them as you choose to do. Just because their marriage has broken down does not mean in any way that you have to choose between them -- they are both your parents, and they both love you without reservation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): You are assuming that one of them is going to be hurt if you choose the other. You should check that assumption, as your parents may be more grown-up than you give them credit for. Being parents, they made have already decided for you :-)
If not, go with a third option. Go out on your own, stay with another relative.
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 well you're 18-21...perhaps you should go with yourself. This way you don't have to choose, get your own place and that way you don't hurt either of your parents.
but if you're unable to do that, perhaps pick both. If they both want you, then have a room at both homes.
Either that or don't base your decision on love, maybe location instead. Who lives closer to your school, work, friends, etc.
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