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*daminio
writes:Hello, right this is an ongoing thing really, about 3-4 years ago a long relationship of 5 years ended pretty bad. We hadn't been talking for about 3 months because I locked my self away because I didn't feel I could give her what she deserved. Anyway I went. Around to her new flat and a bloke was there.. obviously shocked me because I never thought it would happen. She still stayed in contact with me saying he bullied her and wouldn't go away. I didn't really believe her but I loved her.. I then found out she was tellin her family I wouldn't leave her alone.. yet she would Chase me if I blanked her ha. Any way its 3-4 years down yhe line, and I can't find another girl I really like, I either don't trust girls or they annoy me in someway. And so have maybe been with 1 person since. I still maybe once a day think about my ex and speak every so often. The main things that hurt me is the thoughts of. Her going with lads on one night stands etc.. and also the fact I can't move on while she is partying all the time will I always feel like this? I miss the girl she was when we was young, I just see her as a slapper now. Thank you
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reader, adaminio +, writes (28 April 2012):
adaminio is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHeya aunt honesty, thanks for answering, I guess I spent a lot of time thinking we was meant to be, because she couldn't resist keeping in contact with me, and also visa versa. ( I'm not usually a SAP into. Them things ) but I read somewhere the main reason she could be in contact for is guilt or being nosey ha.
I don't know , I don't like drinking or girls that do drink, so I'm pretty much buggered because I haven't been meeting girls I like, I've gave up on concerns of appearence .. its naf that I'm going to have to meet another girl to truely get over her .. I just need to win the lottery ha
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 April 2012):
 You are holding on to a memory of someone who she is not now. She has grew up and changed and I guess you just need to accept that. I think you need to drop all contact from her before you can move on properly, you are not moving on because you keep finding out stuff about her and talking to her, that all needs to stop. You need to try and erase her from your life or else you will never be happy. Yes it is hard to move on from someone but you need to start going out on plenty of dates, and stop looking for things that annoy you, my guess is that you compare other girls to her and little things they do annoy you because she never done something like that, you need to stop living in the past, you need to remember she is not the same person any more so it would never work between the both of you. You are angry with her but you need to let that go. Give other girls a chance, give yourself a chance to be happy.
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