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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi - over the course of 15 years my husband and I have argued quite a lot and I think he plays mind games. On a handful of occasions these arguments have been physically abusive. I have also lashed out during these incidents but I have felt pushed and pushed with mental abuse. In the worst incident my husband hit me across the face so hard it broke two of my teeth and told me I exagerrated the pain. Because these incidents are so few and far between I seem to 'recover' and he says to me that "I must know that I played a part in winding him up in these regretful incidents" but I am struggling to feel anything for him but deep sorrow and I am concluding that the damage is too great. Every day I feel these two teeth because although visually they look ok they feel funny in my mouth - not the same as before - and I can't seem to escape what happened because of this reminder. People say to leave on just one incident alone and I don't know why I haven't or what to do next... when is enough enough? Please help because I want to be the happy woman I am sure I have inside me somewhere. Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Nobody should be hitting, that's first. I won't take sides without more information. When you say you also lashed out, do you mean physically? If so, you're as much to blame as him. Whatever pushes us to that point is irrelevant, you shouldn't hit each other. You push his buttons, he pushes yours etc...Nobody here really knows the truth of the entire situation. If he did more physical damage, that's understandable, he's probably stronger. Either way it's wrong to do. You shouldn't hit each other. Can you be more specific.
One thing is for sure, you can't be together under those circumstances. Do you have any more information.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (8 July 2007):
 You should get out no matter what you have said or done to him that DOES NOT justify him hitting you babe.
Do you really want to stay and become another statistic, the minute a man raises his hand to you that should be a big red flag.
Those teeth don't feel the same as before because you associate them with what he done to you.
Pack your bags and walk out of that door and don't ever look back darling.
Have you got a friend or relative you can go and stay with for a while until you get yourself sorted?
There is a happy women inside of you and it will come out but only if you walk away from this abusive relationship.
Take care babe.xx.
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