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writes:I am going on a date tommorow with a girl from school, weve only talked a couple times but i asked her if she wanted to get lunch sometime and she said yes, so we set up a date tommorow.My question is at the end of the day when im dropping her off, how do i know if shes ok with a kiss or not Reply to this Question
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reader, daletom +, writes (29 June 2009):
OK - so how did it go for you two?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): take it slowly dude its only lunch , dont give yourself presure get to know her first after a few dates , movies etc then kiss her. if she laughts at your corny jokes and smiles strokes her hair you know she likes you and perhaps a bit more
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reader, Tbonex +, writes (27 June 2009):
 You'll know but you really do not want to come on too strongly as that may be a turn off to a woman. many women have different personalities so whatever is best for your situation. You should see how she reacts to you throughout the day you are with her and don't seem desperate for anything. Be cool about the situation, and let her come to you with that. You'll know when the time comes.
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reader, daletom +, writes (27 June 2009):
It's hard to know. Don't expect very much, though.
The truth is, she may be asking herself the same question right now. With some girls you will get a polite, cursory, chaste kiss regardless. With others - even if they are seriously attracted to you - it may take a dozen dates before they allow that level of familiarity.
I'd say you're best off not to expect it, and don't try to take it if it isn't freely offered. And, if she offers a kiss out of duty or obligation then accept it graciously and thank her for her attentions.
You can watch for clues while you're together. How close does she sit to you? Does she touch you with her hands, or hold your hand? If you see these signs she'll probably permit a simple kiss. If she keeps her distance while you're together, trying to get a kiss will probably not go well and will make future activities more difficult.
The last time I kissed a girl on the first date - she kissed back, and I mean REALLY kissed back! I ended up marrying her and we're still kissing almost 36 years later. Now, the difference is that we had been writing to each other, real letters on real paper, becoming more serious, for 3 months before we ever met for that date. So we were already well acquainted - I think it was a great way for two quiet-and-shy people to get to know each other. My point is that it will happen for you when both of you are ready for it to happen, and you're better off not trying to make it happen until there is some real familiarity between you two.
Good luck!
p.s. - you might take a look at the thread "Did I mess up our first date by not kissing her?" at [ http://www.dearcupid.org/question/did-i-mess-up-our-first-date-by.html ].
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