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writes:There's this guy that I've known for around 2 months now. For around the first few weeks we got along reeeally good and flirted a lot. We have like exactly the same personality. Then for a few weeks after that he started distancing himself and not really making an effort so I just kinda left that. He tried to get back in contact with me soon after that and apologised, saying he had a lot going on in his life then like problems with his ex, who he now really hates and family stuff.So everything's good now, but we don't talk as much any more and he seems different after this drama with his ex. Like he's talking to me about much deeper stuff now, like his insecurities, but I kind of just feel like his agony aunt. He's hinted to me that he wants a girlfriend but hasn't really done much about it. Quite confusing. I feel as though he just wants the attention from me but to be honest, the fact that he doesn't seem interested makes me like him more. And he is an awfully sweet guy and I know he just won't mess a girl around.Should I just wait to see where things go? Or is this just a lost cause?
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reader, bootyboot  +, writes (20 April 2009):
sounds like he was probably very hurt by his ex and wants to take things very slowly. i would just take it easy with him and give him some time to get over it. guys are very sensitive creatures, if they're hurt they don't forget it very easily and it can make it hard for the next person to come along.
that's why if i smell trouble, i usually break it off before he can break it off with me! so far it's worked pretty well..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): If he is hinting around why not just come out with it and ask him everything you are asking us? In my opinion if he is involving you more deeply in his life and situations maybe its because he wants you as a part of his life! Its possible that the reason he is taking things slower and telling you all his insecurities is because he wants you to really know him before you get serious. His ex may have really done a number on him and he will have to work through that so that he can have a clean, drama free relationship. I would sit him down and just tell him how you are feeling. You dont want to leave this wondering what if right?
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